I seriously have no patience or tolerance for rude and stupid people. I never want to be rude but sometimes the situation calls for it. It's enough trying to deal with the issues we have and don't need to deal with insensitive, thoughtless idiots, especially when the idiot is family. Made the mistake of stopping by my parents house and another family member was there, one I rarely see but who is aware of my battle with depression over the years. I also have an autoimmune disease that contributes to the depression, severe fatigue at times, and insomnia. And as expected, my mom starts telling her all about my disease like it's entertainment and she can't wait to point out my flaws. None of which is new to me. This other family member looked at me and said in a snarky tone, "you look fine. You don't look sick". I've heard it before from other people and it would upset me and I'd just walk away. But this time I wasn't just going to walk away get upset about it. So I looked at her and calmly said, "well, you don't look stupid but looks can be deceiving". That shut her up and honestly, felt so good! I walked out just as my mom was about to get on me for being so rude instead of standing up for me and telling the her how rude she was. But that's very typical and pretty much how things have been all my life. By the time I got home I was over it and wasn't about to let that ruin my day. And standing up for myself has been a goal for a while so this was just one small step in doing that.
I hope everyone has a good evening a better tomorrow.