Desperate mom

[SGV66]

Hello everyone!

I’m sure my son 24 years old is having depression, anxiety and OCD, the problem is that he doesn’t want to accept it. He idoesnt want to see any doctor and is everyday getting worse and worse. He is just eating healthy but compulsively, and of course is gaining weight. He insists that his problems are physiological, related with his hormones, he says that his cortisol level are to low but his blood test are fine, just vitamin D and B are very low which I’m sure are contributing with his depression but he reluctantly says no! Please! I need your advise in what to do, he is living like a zombie, he doesn’t go out, he doesn’t do anything, but anything if I ask him to do anything he says that he can’t do it, even simple things, very simple things, he doesn’t study, doesn’t work of course, and every time his mood is getting worse, angry, sad, mad, hopeless. What should I do? Please help me!!

[Hidden]

Hi, definitely being low in B and D can cause problems. Have you started him on supplements? Would he be willing to try a medication?

[SGV66 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Lynnalice,

Thanks for your answer, he doesn’t want to see any doctor but at least he is taking ( not easy though) his vitamin D and B sometimes, I have to give it to him if not, he doesn’t take, just like that! I’m now in the process of getting an appointment with the psychologist for therapy, not easy to get it but hopefully I’ll do it. He doesn’t want to see a psychiatrist because he doesn’t want psychotropic medication, it’s been a bad experience in it.... so it’s difficult because he thinks that only with natural remedies he will do it but we are been like this for sooo long and every time worse, now he doesn’t go out at all, of course not driving etc.

[Fishmonster]

Morning

As parents we always want to do what’s best for our children. We hate seeing them like that but sometimes they need to fall to realize their mistakes.

Have you discussed this with his regular doctor?

Maybe have the doctor talk to him and prescribe something light that won’t have much side affects but enough maybe he will see where he’s heading

[hypercat54]

How does he know his levels of vitamins B and D are low if he hasn't seen a doctor? This can certainly cause all sorts of health problems so I don't understand why he won't see his doctor about them.

I can understand why he wouldn't want to if he thinks it is psychological as many men seem to see depression as a 'weakness' and a threat to their male ego. This is why the leading cause of death in the western world of men between 25-40 is suicide.

I hope he is willing to get some help. x

[Hidden]

I totally understand how you feel as my youngest son has issues that he won’t seek help for. I have accepted the fact that I cannot possibly do this for him...he has to do it for himself. I feel like when he gets sick and tired of being sick and tired, he will either come to me or seek help. I believe we further enable them by trying to fix everything...that’s their job. Give him the space to live life his own way. If and when it all falls apart, you can be there for him to help pick up the pieces. Let him make his own mistakes! 🌷🙂🌷

[pam4him]

I can see his is a tough spot for you. Adult children can be hard to parent. Is he living at home? Is there something you can do to get his attention? Cut off access to internet, stop paying tuition, disconnect his cell phone, etc until he gets help? It may well have to be some tough love to get him help. And not just him agreeing to get help, but actually going through with it. Unless he's deemed a danger to himself or others, it is difficult to force help on him. I hope you can find some local resources to guide you both through this.