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Upset with hospital treatment

Have been battling ear infection for 3 weeks. The first antibiotic didn't work, got told to try a new one & take Sudafed (Dr. appt on phone). Well had a mild allergic reaction, plus Sudafed can cause bad anxiety. Saw my doctor Wed told to stop both & given a 3rd antibiotic. Called Thurs , peeing a lot & lower back pain. Urine test ordered- came back okay. Today still feeling horrible & having issues that med sheet says call. I was able to get appt & the doctor wasn't nice. When he came in he said he looked at my chart & all the calls I've made. He treated me like I was waiting Kaiser Permanente time & a crazy person. Looked at my ear, said it's gone, but takes time to fully go away. That I have a cold & stomach pain is "normal". Feel like I have a giant C on my head. I am sorry I'm sick & scared... but I'm also not a doctor & I pay for this service. Yes, I have anxiety & depression, but I deserve to be healthy... But they see that & brush you off saying it's that effecting your health.... how am I suppose to know😢 My therapist is on vacation for next 2 weeks... I don't even want to talk to her. Feel worthless.... & it doesn't matter if something is wrong cause I'm just crazy.

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You are not crazy, you I'd what you had to do, so good on you.

Doctors can be a pain in the ass sometimes.. I was on antibiotics years ago that made me ill, I told my doc it was because of the antibiotics and he said it couldn't be. I told him it was and don't for one second think I am stupid, he changed his attitude there and then. Sometimes they need to be spoken to firmly to show us a bit of respect.

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Thank you Jimmyjimmy. I wish I was the type to call people out. I'm hoping they send me a survey, sometimes they do, so I can let them know how I feel.

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Can you ask for a survey or do they have a website with one on it.

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It's random... though I should probably look. My regular doctor was nice & understanding... hoping that doesn't change...

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I hope you get back to your regular doctor after this.

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She is on vacation for next 2 weeks as of yesterday. Currently hoping it's the antibiotics making me feel horrible & once done everything is better.

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I was on them for a few months, they did take their toll, but once I stopped them everything went back to normal.

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Months? yuck... my last dosage is Wed night, can't come soon enough.

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Five months ,trying different antibiotics until they worked. Made me ill but was fine within a month of stopping them.

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wow... that's a lot. Hope you are doing better now.

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Yes the problem is long gone now Mel.

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the problem with antibiotics mostly is that it destroys your body's natural flora which is your first defence system against infections. And then you have to replace it all.....it takes time. Women have the added joy of yeast infection after coming off of antibiotics so if you take Acidophilus or eat active yogurt...that will replenish that natural bacteria which fights off the yeast which is always present in you system.

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I did pick up yogurt... I remembered from last time. I had my husband with me... didn't bring him in with me. Next time I think I'll ask him to. My husband agrees it's my anxiety making me feel horrible on top of being sick.... but that the doctor shouldn't behaved that way.

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no.....there is no excuse for bad manors or that kind of obnoxious condescending behavior from anyone, especially a doctor who is supposed to be helping you.

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Yep I ate probiotics and they helped.

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do you have any one who can go with you....someone who can be your advocate.

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Having mental illness requires us to bear wrongs patiently with love when those who don’t understand what we are going through wrong us.

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Very true. Makes it so hard to open up to people, once you've been wrong. Happy to have here... at least people understand & relate. Thanks.

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Yeah it’s hard not to get discouraged with people. It took me awhile to get to a place where I can be patient when I feel I been wronged. I think everyone has to go at their own pace in that regard. I wish this forum exsisted years ago. I would not have felt so alone.

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You must have so much patience,i admire u.I'm a care home resident and am depressed because they said i can't have a bath.They haven't the time!

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I learned to be patient. Their were five people in my family and we only had one bathroom. It’s not easy. I wasn’t born patient but life has a way of teaching us lessons like that. I think being agoraphobic for fourteen years also taught me patience.

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Hey mel...that doctor was unprofessional and an ass.....it also sounds like if your worried about a kidney or bladder infection cause your peeing a lot and have lower back pain...believe me when I tell you this....drink cranberry juice...even if you hate it...do it. Make another doctors appointment if your still sick, and be up front with your NEW doctor and say, look, just because I have health anxiety and depression means I don't really get sick. You have been dismissed and treated rudely quite frankly, and your money is the same color as anyone else's, so you expect to be treated with respect and courtesy. Yeah we all have issues, but that has nothing to do with a doctor being completely unprofessional, which yours was. Your a patient....that's all they need to be concerned about, any other existing conditions such as your health anxiety, you explain to them you know the difference between a worry and actual pain.... who better to know than the patient. Don't you be down on yourself because of that jerk....just because they have MD on their name means they know what they are doing...believe me.

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Good one, I drink it every day for that reason.

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some things like ginger root for nausea and cranberry juice for urinary track issues do work. even Lemon balm for sore mouth, manuka honey for colds, natures anti-viral and honey is a natural antibiotic.so are herbs like thyme, licorice root for sore throat..Cinnamon and cloves for oral issues as well..it's why they found honey wine called Mead often in well sealed amphora jars with no mold...But with an infection....if you don't get better with home remedy's within the week...not a good idea to ignore, you should always see a doctor.

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I agree, I use lot of those things daily, doctor is a last resort for me.

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I know what your saying....me too. unfortunately my body is not able to fight off infection like it use to. I never had to take antibiotics for most of my life....and it's a good thing because over use causes resistance to build and bugs become immune. Then your in big trouble.

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I had no choice but to take them... It's prob the second time in my life that I did, people abuse them because they think they are a cure all.

They will be useless eventually, science needs to develop new things. Read that viruses might be used to fight some types of infections... Strange!

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there will I think be more natural foods introduced that have these anti-biotic, and anti-viral abilities in them....the biggest mistake people make is not using them correctly. Colds are viral....so an antibiotic which is needed for bacteriological infections such as pneumonia etc., won't kill a virus, so they are taken when they won't actually work. Another thing is....not taking the whole course...worst thing you could ever do....you start to feel better but have 2-3 days left...think...oh, I'm okay..but these bugs have an incubation period....when they are multiplying in your cells...the symptoms are no felt as much....then when the virus bursts the cell walls and your system is flooded again with them...you begin to feel sicker again. So the remaining few virus will continue to multiply...but you stop taking your antibiotics....those few now become drug resistant...and so do you. Next time that antibiotic might not work as well or at all.

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True!

It will all end in tears, people need to be educated on antibiotic use before it's to late.

I know people that take a handful of them when hey feel even slightly I'll.. stupid thing to do.

But some people will never learn.

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there is MRSA which is from unclean floors and areas of high use in medical hospitals where it's become a Petri dish of culture to develop non specific infectious disease.......drug resistant STD's....drug resistant HIV....all from stupidity....

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I heard ginger is good for sea sickness as well.

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yes it is

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Boy faux...how I love you! Nailed it once again....now tell us how you really feel...hahahaha!!! XXXX

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I can't stand the abuse of a position to be condescending or dismissive.

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I get you 1,000%...hahaha!!! Have a beautiful day! Love & hugs!!! XXX

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you too pal....and guess what ....it's the last day....OMG!!!!....freedom

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That's fantastic pal!!! Make the most of it!!!!! Yes FREEDOM!!! XXX

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you know what it feels like to see that door shut behind them.....OMG ....

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DO IT FAST< HAHAHA!!!! I'm laughing my head off right now!!!! XXX

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I'm holding my breath for the next thing said is: 'I quit my job'.....or; 'I got more time off cause I traded days off'....and then our whole week vacation is ruined. I know I know...positive thoughts.....

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Yes that's right .......positive breeds positive!!! Don't even think of going there or you're going to hear it, hahahaha!!!! Love & Hugs!!! XXX

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no kidding....don't put those thoughts out in the universe.....

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right on..keep the groove going!!!! XXXX Peace!!! XXX

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Thank you Fauxartist. Love all the natural med advice. My sister said the same thing about cranberry juice- she has gotten UIs & has kidney problems. I called her Friday, they emailed me my results from the test without explaining it. I told her the 2 things (visual) & she said those were fine. To drink more water & cranberry juice.

You are very right that doctor was a piece of work. I wasn't in there seeking drugs... I just wanted to know I'm okay. I wish they taught them how to handle people with anxiety & depression, they will deal with them regularly. Anxiety can make your body do a lot of same things serious health conditions, so yes we're going to think something health ways is the matter. Especially when you are sick.

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hang in there mel...and I hope your feeling better soon....your regular doctor will be back soon enough.....and tell them your experience with this jerk....

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Thank you Fauxartist. Just trying to rest- best medicine. Have a beautiful day my friend. Loves 💖

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Now you are not crazy! Dr.'s these days don't care like they used to back in the good old days, anyone remember house visits? It's disgusting that you are being treated like this....maybe you should find a new Dr.?? I'm so sorry you're going through this...you're too much of a sweetheart!!!! Love & Hugs!!! XXX

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Anxiety_59 ❤ Luckily he was just an ugerant care doctor I saw. My regular doctor doesn't work weekends & was understanding when I saw her Wed. I'm hoping she still is whenever I see her next. Right now I'm just mad... I had a doctor do this to me like 10 years ago- before I had insurance. I was already fearful of it happening again, when I wasn't getting better. Then it does happen & I feel defeated. I'm having my husband keep an extra close eye on me... if I get worse , we'll figure it out. I'll have him go in with me- so it won't happen again. Big hugs & lots of love.

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Yes take your hubby! I wish you all the best & hopefully you'll be back to new as soon as possible!!!! Love, Hugs,Peace & Joy!!! XXX

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Hello Mel. If you still feel sick go to another doctor and get another opinion. And when your therapist comes back go and see her, even if you don't want to. I also have anxiety and depression and many health problems, and sometimes doctors think that my physical problems have to do with the anxiety and depression when it has nothing to do with that. You might be allergic to some of the antibiotics they are giving you, tell the doctor all the symptoms you have felt with each one.

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Thank you Lilly5. Luckily my appetite came back, was a concern (had eaten much all week, felt I to force myself to eat). I suffer from GERD & was under impression couldn't take anything for it while on current antibiotics. He did tell me which one I could... so hopefully it helps. Only a few more days of antibiotics... going to try to relax & see . 🤞

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I have gastritis/esophagitis and I'm taking Prevacid. I haven't been able to wean myself off that drug, and I've tried to do it slow (4 months) but it didn't work. My doctor wants me to get another endoscopy but I don't want to. Well, I'm glad you just have a few days of antibiotics left. Remember to take probiotics like yogurt and sauerkraut, etc, do you can fix the damage they cause in the gut.

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I am sorry you are going through gastritis/esophagitis & hope you get some relief soon. I got a endoscopy done years ago... Luckily they found nothing. I take Protonix which helps most of the time... when I get extra stressed my acid reflux gets bad. I did pick up yogurt with probics in it. Had it for breakfast with my pill past 2 mornings... helping some ☺

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Hi Mel.. u can go to Yelp on internet n put how that Dr. treated you n I bet more people will add their stories. also go talk to the pharmacist at CVS n they can suggest over the counter meds til yr regular Dr comes back. try AZO for UTI n urgency. Makes urine orange but it sure helps. For yr ear warm some olive oil n put it on a little cotton ball and put that in your ear n it will sooth it. Maybe that Dr needs a vacation or he was having a bad day who knows. let it go dont let his ugliness keep u from getting better n you will. you got lots of good advise from yr pals here.

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Thank you Samson. Might have to give the olive oil thing a try. I did talk to a pharmacist at Walgreens- she was very nice. Not surprised Sudafed had that reaction- apparently very common. I am very happy to have this group- sounds like we've all had similar experiences.

Unfortunately the anxiety is in my file- I see my therapist & psychologist through the hospital. Plus the nurse gave me a psy. survey paper to fill out when I saw my regular doctor Wed. I wish had refused to fill it out.

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oh as I don't tell tell the Dr about yr ANXIETY when going to the E R only yr symptoms at the moment. cuz they will only focus n blame it on anxiety n depression. just a thought

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Well, doctors are pretty much like plumbers: great, good, indifferent, and or/bad. I'm sorry you're feeling wretched. When this clears up, I strongly suggest you find yourself an MD you can work with. More importantly, if you're therapist is on vaca, and you need to speak to someone, I'm sure there's a "fill-in" who can see you. If you really need a sit-down/chalk-talk, do it. (Illness and feeling weak physically can make us feel marginalized and reek havoc with our heads.)

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I wish there was a fill in... unfortunately Kaiser has a shortage in the mental health dept. I'm lucky to have a therapist there I see regularly... 😔 I'm sure they sent her a message, so I'll probably hear from her.

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You should go to another doctor this one sound rude and YOU ARE NOT CRAZY Mel

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maybe a little 😄 Thanks Danielle, made me smile... love ya 🌻

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melbrown, I feel your pain and your fear. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Also sorry about the late response. Sending my love xx

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Thank you Agora1. ❤ No reason for being sorry... life happens. Lots of love & hugs.

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xxx

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💕 best to you 💕

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Been there.,..you definitely ARE worthy and valuable! I am trying to get a hospital I went to investigated. Major horrible! I discovered that I am not going to be treated like nothing anymore. I may be passive by nature but that is it! I just switched doctors. No more!

People seem to be generally stupid and nasty. That is their problem, not yours. When you feel terrible after an interaction just leave! They might be attempting to put their own feelings of self-worth onto you.

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You are not crazy and I know how you feel I went though the same thing..

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