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My Son passed away from an accidental overdose

PBGFL
PBGFL

It's hard for me to share this but if it keeps one person from doing the same, it's worth it.

The Police came to my door at 7am, Friday, to tell me that 911 was called to a home in the area where my Son was unresponsive. They tried everything but couldn't bring him back.

He had met a girl at the bar, went to her house to do a line of what he was told was cocaine. But that cocaine was laced with Fentanyl and caused his death.

I'm devastated, I miss him terribly, this pain is the worst suffering I've ever experienced in my life.

I have Bipolar ll & GAD and have been able to get through the past 2 months with my current meds, now I'm just trying to get by one moment at a time. A crisis counselor came right after the Police, I have my psychiatrist appt and psychologist appt Thursday, cant see them any sooner.

I'm hanging by a thread but have to believe that I can get through this, one minute at a time.

God Bless my Son.

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I am so sorry! How devastating for you. I am praying for you 🙏 and keeping you in my thoughts. Please use your support of friends and family. I'm here anytime you want to talk.

My blessings 🙏❤️

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

Thank you Gretel. My daughter and her husband are staying with me indefinitely.

They are a great help, but my daughter is also devastated of course. She lost her big brother and they were very close.

This seems like a nightmare and I'm praying I wake up soon.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

I lost a brother and cousin in a motorcycle accident. I've seen what it did to my parents & entire family. My heart breaks 💔 for you and your daughter especially and of course your entire family. I'm glad you have the support and again I'm always here for you

🙏Gretel

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

I'm sorry for your loss of your brother & cousin. I too also lost my brother due to a motorcycle accident, that was so hard, we were 13 months apart, so close.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

Omg I'm so sorry! When there's the loss like that I've found that most people express more grief to the parents & grandparents and often forget the sibling is a total mess. I've read some books on sibling loss. If your daughter is interested and when she's ready the author is TJ Wray and she's on Amazon. A fantastic sibling loss book.

I'm so sorry. Please if you need anything 🙏 or your daughter don't hesitate.

My blessings and prayers 🙏

Gretel XX

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

Thank you Gretel, I will share the authors information with my daughter.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

You're welcome. I'm always here if needed 🙏

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Hidden

The books are called Surviving the death of a brother or sister and recovering the death of the loss of a sibling both by TJ Wray. Amazon has them

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

Thank you Gretel.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

Anything I can do for you I'm here. ❤️🙏

Hey,

I think you have a perfect plan trying to get by one moment at a time. That is really all you can do right now. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

<3

Thank you. You're right, it is all I can do. It's hard to sleep, my mind doesn't shut off.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Dolphin14

Thank you.

So sorry for your loss of son RIP will keep you and family in my thoughts and prayers at this heartbreaking time xx

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to mydogs

Thank you.

I am so so sorry for you loss 😣😣. I don't supposed there is anything anyone can say which is really going to help but we are here if you need to off load at anytime.

My sincerest condolences to you and your family at this awful time 💚💚💚

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Missy_D

Thank you.

Hi I'm so sorry for your loss I hope you wil believe me when I say this your son is still alive his spirit is living in I have proof of spirit from all the people I loved that have died recently my dad you need to talk to your son and believe it's helped me to know this look for the sines like something brushing by your hair a goosey feeling a white feather I found a old picture of my dad and near it was a old umbrella cover which said on it pure spirit my cat died called Chrystal a unusual name I had a film on and they kept saying Chrystal theses my mam has had lots experience of spirit after my step dad died loosing a child is the worst thing of all I hope you have a good support network from friends family I found it very helpful in here I wish your pain to ease just remember your son is just a thought away as love never dies x

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to Curly1_

Also you need to foccus that the pain will get less and be more bearable in time talking is the best thing x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Curly1_

Thank you Curly, I do believe his spirit lives on and there will be signs. I've been talking to him a lot. Thank you for your reply.

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to PBGFL

Oh good, my mam watches long Island medium Theresa she's really nice and can tell it's genuine we went to see Colin fry my step dad came through, it's channel 38 on Saturday about 6 until 8 my mam is telling me to tell you and it just helps her I watch it sometimes it's a comfort to me knowing my dad is at peace and no longer suffering but he was old I'm not sure if you can take comfort from knowing your son is at peace now away from his addiction problems and troubles if this was the case , lots of love and hugs from me and my lovely mam x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Curly1_

Thank you so much to you and your Mam. Im in Palm Beach Gardens, Florida. Do you know if that channel 38 eastern time in my area?

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to PBGFL

I'm in England you can look up Theresa caputo, long Island medium it is a American programme so you should be able to find her x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Curly1_

Thank you.

Warrior50
Warrior50
in reply to Curly1_

Sorry to interrupt the conversation, just wanna say how amazing Teresa Capputo is, I’ve watched every episode of every series, she truly has an amazing gift and every time I watch her it confirms my belief in the spirit world.xx

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Warrior50

Thanks. I just started watching a few episodes and it is so positive and it does help.

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to PBGFL

I looked it up on internet can watch it by downloading it x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Curly1_

Thank you, i found it.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

I also believe through "personal experience's" at home, that only some folks would believe, that your son's spirit is alive and he's walks beside you. He will forever watch over you and he will be at home with you.

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to Hidden

Hi please tell me of your spiritual experiences x

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Curly1_

I'd love to answer that question however I need to ask you if you are open to what I have to say. It's very personal & close to my heart. Anyone who's skeptical at all I will not tell because they are non believers. That is hard on my heart and my families hearts.

Please tell me

🙏Gretel

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to Hidden

Yes I am open to what you have to say x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

Hidden, I was just reading through these posts again, and realized I never replied to this one. I do believe that my son's spirit is alive, I think that because there's so much pain right now that I can't focus long enough, but I do feel him. There have been a few signs, personal things, but it's only been 7 days. Having a really hard time right now...

Take care...

I’m so sorry for your loss. I also lost a son to drugs but he got so high he hung himself over a girl. It’s been 10 years now and the pain and emptiness never goes away but it does get better. Just hold on and remember God has his arms wrapped around you.

God bless

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Miserable2020

Im so sorry for the loss of your son. I'm holding on too. Thank you.

I am so truly sorry for your loss. xx

I’m sorry for your loss.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to thechae

Thank you.

My deepest sympathy goes out to you. Words cannot

express my sorrow for you. x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Agora1

Thank you.

Omg! I am so sorry. This is awful. Hugs xxx

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to hypercat54

Thank you.

Thank you.

I can't begin to imagine what you are going through...,im so sorry for your loss.

Keeping you in my thoughts. We are here for you

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Lindsey14

Thank you Lindsey. It's just so hard right now.

Lindsey14
Lindsey14
in reply to PBGFL

I can only imagine :( I and many others on here are here for you❤

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Lindsey14

Lindsey,

You're awesome ❤️

Hidden
Hidden

The pain is horrific as I saw my parents go through it, every second of everyday. Luckily I still lived at home. What I saw was the strength of family, friends, God, Priests, strangers & from within them be an amazing support. It's mind numbing. What I saw them go through I never want to see any parent(s) go through. I lived home with him as well he was 2 years older.

Please give your daughter a hug for me & let her know I'm praying for her strength and courage 🙏 to carry her. I know the pain she bears losing a brother.

Thank you for summoning the courage and strength within you to take the time to post this very sad and very poignant message to every parent and teen reading this.

Your son is safe within God's hand's.

God bless 🙏

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

Thank you again Gretel, It helps me to communicate whats happened. My son was a organ and tissue donor, his heart valves, cornea, skin & bone tissue will live on in children and adults. I'm so proud of him!

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

What a wonderful son! ❤️🙏

I'm so very sorry for your loss, if you need to talk to someone private message me, and I will give you my phone number

I have three adult children, and cannot imagine having to face your sudden loss, and pain.

Although I don't know you, I care about your heartbreak, and sadness..

I will be praying that God will give you Devine strength to get through the day, moment by moment.🙏🏽

Sending love ❤️ and a big hug💐

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Freedom57

Thank you so much. This is absolutely the worst pain by far. Constant suffering.

How nice all the kind words from people on here it's brought tears to my eyes having support and knowing people care even though strangers is a big comfort, I'm a bit fragile myself right now got my dad's funeral Monday it's buriel and not feeling good about seeing his coffin going under ground I know he's not in it his spirits moved on but all the same it's horrible and I know my mam will be next I don't know how I'll cope with that I see her every day take Care everyone and stay safe it's such a anxious time for us all x

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Curly1_

Curly I'm so sorry for your loss. You've been so kind to me. I'm certain your Father was a wonderful man, he has such a compassionate, understanding child like you.

Thank you to take the time to support me when you've needed it also.

There are so many loving kind people on this site.

I'm praying for you and your Mam.

God Bless you both!

Curly1_
Curly1_
in reply to PBGFL

Thanks so much let me know what you think to the long Island medium teresa show sorry not sure what time scale your on I'm in bed it's late but can't sleep I'm lucky got my devoted cat pixie Bob snuggled up also the mind has a way of coping and we switch off sometimes and go into a kind of denial I know you'll get by just time takes time I'm goosey right now my dad's here I can feel him I keep meditating deep breathing and I ask for angel guidance and to be strong and I say calm on the breath out it will help you if you get a panic attack night night x

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Curly1_

I'm very sorry. We had a graveside burial for my brother and grandparents plus it's pretty standard to do in my family. To me, and it's only my opinion, graveside burial is a much more heartwarming way to bury your loved one. We were all by his side instead of leaving him in the chapel for others to bury. It's more expensive I understand so a lot of people cannot do it. I will private message you later.

Also I'm going to recommend some books for you to post a list of books for people to read re the afterlife.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Hidden

We are actually having a full Funeral. My sons ashes will be buried in our home state of Michigan in a grave with a headstone next to his Uncle and Grandfather. We will have a church service and a burial service to be by his side.

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to PBGFL

Beautiful. My blessings 🙏

I am so sorry for your loss... A really good friend of mine passed away about 8 months ago as well. He had an asthma attack; however, the likely cause of the asthma attack was probably because of smoking weed and drinking. He was only 20 and I still have a hard time believing he actually died. I know that the loss is different because there is a big difference between a friend dying and a son, but I want you to know that if you ever need to talk to someone, I will gladly be there. In the meantime, I hope you and your family will be well.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Rudolph26

Thank you, and I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. God Bless you.

Rudolph26
Rudolph26
in reply to PBGFL

Thank you... I wish you well.

Know you've heard this a lot , still ...

I am genuinely sorry for your loss. You can take what comfort you can from the people who will support you here in your time of need. My self included. Should you need someone to talk to feel free to private message me any time. If I'm not around I'm sure many many others will respond also to your call.

I have lost loved ones before so I know the pain too well. We/I am here if you need.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to TyrSwmrSAC

Thank you. There are so many kind people on this site, I appreciate everyone's kindness.

God Bless you.

I’m sorry to hear about your son. I hope you get the love and support that you need. Take care.

Thank you

Hi PBGFL, I am so sorry for your loss, I no what pain you are going through as I lost my son he was 6,

My thoughts are with you at this very sad taime.

I’m always here if you ever want a chat🌸

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to Iwilldoit22

Thank you. I'm so sorry for your loss. My son was 36, I cant imagine losing one of my children that young. God Bless you.

Iwilldoit22
Iwilldoit22
in reply to PBGFL

We were told by doctors he wouldn’t live to one. I’m afraid I still find it hard. But my thoughts are with you🌸

Hidden
Hidden

Here's a list of books that I highly recommend and still have to do this day. People have expressed interest in the afterlife here. They are remarkable books.

1. How to survive the loss of a love by Peter McWilliams & Melba Colgrove...

2. Surving the death of a sibling by TJ Wray

3. We are not forgotten by George Anderson (conversations with the other side)

4. We don't die by George Anderson

🙏❤️

Iwilldoit22
Iwilldoit22
in reply to Hidden

I didn’t no about these books. I will look out for that one.

Thank you Gretel331.🌸

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Iwilldoit22

You're welcome 🙏

Hidden
Hidden
in reply to Hidden

Amazon

I have no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. I have lost young friends due to drugs. I will pray for your family and send you peace and love. I an glad you have family with you. You sound like a very strong woman and you are a warrior.

PBGFL
PBGFL
in reply to userbee

Thank you Userbee.

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