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[Jon55]

I just joined this so I guess we will see how it goes.. talk about suffering.. I reached out to all these people to talk to but someone recommended talking to a group of people actually going through it.. I’m 20 years old and I am struggling with severe severe depression.. about 8 months ago my girlfriend left me.. not just any breakup.. she was my best friend for 5 years before we dated for 2.. about a month later my mom passed away unexpectedly.. I lost the two most important people in my life.. I’d love to be able to talk to someone.. I don’t want to lose this life I have.

[Clarebear86]

So sorry to hear you’re having such a bad time. You’ll find there are a lot of supportive people on here who you can share your problems with and who can help you through the bad times

[Jon55 in reply to Clarebear86]

I truly hope so. This is kind of my last resort.. I cant keep doing what I’m doing.

[Clarebear86 in reply to Jon55]

& what is it that you are doing? Maybe I can help

[Jon55 in reply to Clarebear86]

I just can’t keep feeling the way I feel. The unhappiness. For months on end I wake up sick to my stomach and go to sleep sick to my stomach. The pain is unreal

[Clarebear86 in reply to Jon55]

Have you talked to anyone about how you feel? A doctor or therapist?

[Jon55 in reply to Clarebear86]

I have

[Clarebear86 in reply to Jon55]

Good. Then you are on the right track. I found talking about my problems helped me a lot. I however struggle to talk to those who are closest to me; friends / family. As I constantly think they are judging me

[Jon55 in reply to Clarebear86]

I feel the same way.. I know the people who are close to me truly do love me and want the best for me but it’s just very uncomfortable

[Clarebear86 in reply to Jon55]

Indeed it is. But as you say they do love you. Some people just don’t understand that what they say and do at times can be hurtful to those of us who are suffering with our mental health.

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Jon

You need to talk and require to be able too grieve, have you talked to your GP regards the loss of your Mother. You have in a way lost direction, you have lost not only the past, also your possible future.

You do not explain what went wrong between you and Partner, five years is a long time and given that it have have been, She was taken aback that nothing positive had happened over that time.

You need to be able to talk out the death of your Mother and you may be able to discuss the loss of your Partner. To get over the death discussing both good and bad of the relationship you had with He would help. Sometimes I feel if you have Aunts and Uncles and those relatives and friends that knew your Mam, they may also be willing to talk to you about your Mother and Her life choices, this can sometimes put your mind at rest and help you move on.

Regards the Relationship you had with your Partner, do you know the reasons why She left you, did you have any idea that something was wrong. Do you also consider the relation ship has run its course. We learn from failed relationships, also we can eventually see and understand the errors made.

It will take time to get over a failed Partnership, we bleed in our heart and we cannot find a way out of a loss that can be just profound as a death in some ways. You will need to heal and move on eventually, you will find someone new who will understand your needs.

Do not rush consider what you want, eventually you will be strong enough to move on

BOB

[KatieMac79]

That sounds a lot like how my life was going when I was your age. I was so lost at that point. I totally understand. I had a boyfriend, my mom died, I moved in with my boyfriend then because I was still in high school when my mom died, but he broke up with me after about a year of living together. I had no one. It was so hard.

[Jon55 in reply to KatieMac79]

I can’t even describe the pain I feel