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I’m looking to find support I need along the way it’s my first time talking about what I am facing considering my heritage .

I was with my husband for 26yrs dealt with so much emotional and physical abuse that 3years ago he left me since then my anxiety and depression got worse then I meet someone who helped me through it we both have complicated relationships but we both understood but recently since September things have changed he says it’s my insecurities n jealousy but I know it’s not to where my anxiety has gotten worse I’m becoming depressed again and having more frequently my migraines. I been here before but didn’t get the help or support so honestly I just found ways on just by numbing it for so long I can’t anymore!

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Thank you so much I really needed that today and find ways because recently my past which is my husband is starting to reach out and we are actually talking civil but when he starts drinking is where reminders of my choices cause the marriage to fail are made known yet he says hasnt accepted his decision to why he did everything from the start but it was always leads back to me if would done this or that etc! He actually said he was raise in heritage that man can have wife and other women on the side was his excuse!

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Nothing_but_books in reply toNeed2beMeAgain23

If he's okay with what his culture taught him, that's his reality. Is your reality different? If so, that's going to make it awfully hard to interact without hurting each other.

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Need2beMeAgain23 in reply toNothing_but_books

that’s the things we’re from 2different cultures and raised in so many different ways but I understand but I feel that we both have issues we never discussed and instead we just let it and go and hurt each other but hopefully we can get some counseling for the both of us to get better for ourselves and be able to be civil with each other with out blaming and acting on the past

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gajh

Hello and Welcome. I hope you find the support you are looking for.

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Need2beMeAgain23 in reply togajh

Thank you I appreciate that I’m hoping to get that since I’m new to everything and I don’t know where n how to begin without shutting down like I always do!

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gajh in reply toNeed2beMeAgain23

You did great by making your first post and now responding to a reply. This is the way to connect with people. You are doing great.

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Need2beMeAgain23 in reply togajh

It actually felt okay on doing it I didn’t have to second guess myself and I’m looking forward to continue to connect with people.

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Need2beMeAgain23

I understand that what I did before and my life spiral for while then got back to myself but recently since my bday sept things with us been different and he always getting upset about anything then goes to ignore me stop talking me at home we been sleeping different rooms lately so I still find ways to get numb because those decisions I have lost so much weight that lead more to my depression and anxiety that’s why I’m look to local groups meeting to attend which I don’t where to begin i am glad i found this website

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Need2beMeAgain23

Yes that is true and for long I found ways to do that but I ended 2023 with going to church and yes I’m doing more prayers for More guidance to find right and positive ways to deal with all the issues I have that causes my anxiety n depression.

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Nothing_but_books

Your words hit close to home for me. I'm sorry you're going through this.

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Need2beMeAgain23 in reply toNothing_but_books

that’s the thing I always thought it was only me facing this alone! But honestly I’m glad I reach out on here to have support long the way! Thank you

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