Hurting

[sam053j]

My boyfriend thinks I’m cheating on him because the gps showed I was in some field down the road instead of at the gym where I really was! He said he believes me, but he’s been kinda mean and cold towards me ever since. What should I do to convince him that I would never cheat on him? I even offered for him to talk to my friend that I was with at the gym. I dunno. It just really sucks. And it hurts to think he would even think that of me.

[sarah56]

i understand your problem. i struggle with that problem a lot with my boyfriend lately and i dunno what to do.

[Hidden]

Don’t let his trust issues become your trust issues. It’s not your fault he can not handle the truth.

[sam053j in reply to Hidden]

It’s so hurtful and frustrating. Because I know for a fact I have been committed and loyal.

[Hidden in reply to sam053j]

It’s like the old saying you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. Of course it’s hurtful and frustrating. He is basically calling you a liar. He sounds possessive and controlling.

[sam053j in reply to Hidden]

He’s not. He’s just really self conscious and has low self esteem. His ex wife and ex girlfriend in the past cheated on him. He thinks I’ll do the same thing to him. I’m trying to get him to go to counseling

[Hidden in reply to sam053j]

He needs to address these issues if he is going to try and date. It’s not fair to you. He could just be using his past heartbreaks as an excuse to not get help. Getting help would mean he would have to face the truth of what happened and also address his low self esteem issues. Some people are to comfortable in their pain. If he gets help then he can’t use the poor me chip.