After many years of battling depression and never admitting it to myself, I needed to get help but it only continued to get worse and worse. I felt like I didn't want to tell anyone close to me how I was feeling because I didn't want them to worry about me. I felt like nobody cared to ask how I was doing or if I was feeling okay but I never necessarily opened up about those things either.
I lived at home for a while with my mom and step dad and I'd go to school, work, come home, go straight to my room, never talked much to anyone. No "how was your day?" "how is school going?" or "what are you doing this week?" etc. I was often feeling alone or like nothing I did mattered. I struggled in college and I pushed my way through each semester, retaking classes often and hoping to make it out alive. I always felt like nobody understood me. When my boyfriend and I started dating I started staying with him at his house more and more because i didn't like being at home. I eventually moved out of my mom and step dad's house into his house and my mom was not very happy about it. She told me I was throwing my life away and that she did not agree with what I was doing. She even tried to accuse me that she thought I was on drugs and that I didn't know what I was doing with my life. (btw, i'm drug-free) so I quickly packed my crap and left cause I no longer felt at home in my own home.
Not too long before that I would constantly come home crying because I was stressed out with school and worried because at the time I was getting sued over credit card debt. I was trying to work and make money and try to stay motivated to do good in school but everything felt like it was absolute hell.
So after a few arguments with my mom before moving out, she had many hurtful words to say to me. Eventually I told her I have been depressed for a very long time and that she was not helping. I told my dad over lunch one day about my struggle with depression and he was supportive and told me I needed to go talk to someone. However my mom did not think I needed to be prescribed medication or go see a therapist. She never wants to listen to me but instead she always wants to give me her feedback.
I have told one of my friends about everything and I told her about me taking the medication. She did not seem like she understood much but at least she still supported me and wanted me to get better.
I never told my mom about going to the doctor or the therapist. Just the other day I posted on twitter that I was thankful for therapy and she asked me over a text message why I was in therapy. I told her about the depression, once again... (like it was news to her) and her answer to that was a question to me asking "why are you depressed"... and I dont think anyone who is depressed could ever actually answer that question... if we could, wouldn't we have solved these issues?? haha my point exactly.
I feel like when I dont have my own mother as a support person and I barely see my dad enough to really talk about it, its very hard to feel like I have much of a support system at all. I dont talk about my feelings so as you can imagine my first few trips to the therapist I have cried all my makeup off every single time. But after I have let it out and told someone about my struggles, I do feel a little relieved. I dont know how to make that situation better with my mom. I wish it were easier to talk about without feeling like I sound like a crazy person. Since I moved in with my boyfriend I dont feel like she supports me anymore. I feel like I have disappointed her as a daughter and I feel like I had no choice but to live with my boyfriend where I can come home and feel loved. Many struggles recently have also left me feeling very alone without anyone to talk to. My boyfriend has watched me cry so much I dont want him to think I am unstable as a person. So many things have happened in my life lately that depression has felt its worst and I am at my weakest sometimes. Does anybody else have a way that helps you cope with your emotions or talk about your feelings while struggling depression? Does anybody relate to anything I have experienced?
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