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[Kellycin]

I was cheated on by my x husband but after not together for 6 months we are now back together. We’ve been back a little over a year. Things were great in the beginning but we fell back into old habits again. Not the cheating per say, just not connecting and communicating. Now I’m on a daily thinking he’s cheating on me. No reason on his end but I can’t stop thinking. I’ll smell his clothes or check for hairs on his clothing etc. it’s consuming me and I’m afraid we’re gonna separate again. I love this man and he’s changed for the better. I think maybe I have a form of ptsd. Not to mention I’m bipolar and currently being treated. I’m lost for words and need to get over it on I’ll be alone instead of having my family back again. Help.

[hb_kenzie]

It sounds to me like you aren’t able to trust him anymore which I don’t blame you.

[Concernedparent23]

Trust is the hardest thing to allow yourself to do after you've been betrayed.

It sounds like could use some help to overcome it.

So many people use relationship counselling for this.

Hope you can work together on this x

[Hidden]

Hiya, so sorry to hear about the difficult time you are having. I think you have clearly identified the key issue yourself when you say you are 'not connecting and communicating'. Poor communication is at the root of so many (most?) problems in life generally, although it's often overlooked in practice. It sounds like a lack of open communication is holding you back, and if you focus on resolving this, you will move forward. Take care,

[jips]

Sorry you felt like you needed to cheat on him as I'm sure you are too. It takes a lot of time to heal! It sounds like you could both use counseling.

I agree with Sebastian58 when it comes to poor communication! If you love him and he love's you that is defiantly a pulse! I think counseling is good because(as you probably know) it's hard to live your life when your consumed with those thoughts and actions!

We're here for you! Oh, and try to forgive yourself. Keep coming back!!

[fauxartist]

For me, once I've lost that trust in my partner....I never seem to get it back. and since trust is one of my issues.....any relationship I've had where my partner cheated...was doomed. I'm sorry I don't have any answers to help you not be suspicious...but I would suggest couples counselling. Some can overcome infidelity ....I cannot.

[Kellycin]

Today is better for me. I’m giving my kids my phone so I can be more accomplished and stop looking stuff up. That’s my biggest problem is my phone. Haven’t touched it for 4 hours. Went to dinner with my daughter and went shopping plus went for a walk. Baby steps. Thanks guys!