Having feelings again

[Kat63]

I’m starting to feel a little anxious and needy again. I’m going to visit my aunt this weekend. She has my cat at her house. He can’t stay at the place I live with my bf, because the cat that already lives there doesn’t get along with him.

Now it seems he’s not doing too well at my aunt’s house. He’s peeing all over things. If I’m honest, I would have trouble dealing with that if he was at my house. So, we will probably have to find him a new home.

And of course, I’ll have to be away from my bf for 24 hours. That always makes me a little anxious.

NOTE: If you are going to scold me or try to make me feel guilty about the cat - DON’T. I already feel terrible about the cat. Your scolding and shaming will NOT help.

[kenster1]

hi does your aunt have cat litter trays this could just be a sign of the cat marking her territory.

[Pugglesworth]

Hi Kat.

Sounds like the cat at your aunt's may not care for the environment. Maybe a new home would help.

[Coralrose5]

Sorry that you’re going to have to find the cat a new home. Hopefully you can still visit him there. Have you figured out why being apart from your bf causes anxiety? I find it difficult to go out and do things alone (whether separate from my husband or friends/family) but I wasn’t always this way. Not sure why it’s so anxiety prompting.

[Hollick in reply to Coralrose5]

I feel that too.

[foxglove_pnw]

Hi Kat , hope you can find a new home for your cat ! I know how hard this was for you from your other posts !

Like Coral said , try to figure out why you get anxious away from your bf! I personally don’t like to travel without my family because I am scared that something would happen to me when I am alone.

Good luck !

[Iamworthit]

Kat, I had to give up my cats 25 years ago and I still feel guilty- it was a crazy time.

Then my 29 year old daughter died. They had a cat, but her husband abandoned the cat in their house ( he moved right away; it was a rental) . My middle daughter had her then she had life changes so I took her- except my cat ( that I have now)and her cat did not get along. Finally a good home was found for her. So don’t feel too bad- you’re not the only one.

[Kat63 in reply to Iamworthit]

Thank you.

[snow_queen]

I'm really sorry about your cat and I'm sure you feel guilty about it as well as sad to have to give him up.

maybe try talking to your bf, tell him how you're feeling so he will understand if you're acting a bit needier than usual. also calling him or facetime while you're away from him might help? best of luck