weird anxiety right now

[Daisy425]

for some reason I’m having some weird anxiety about my boyfriend coming over and staying for the weekend. For context, we’ve been dating over two years and he’s very much aware of my anxiety and dealt with the worst of worst when it comes to it. I should feel relieved he’s coming so that I’m not alone, but in a weird way I feel pressure to be okay. He’s not putting this pressure on me, I’m putting it on myself. I also know mornings are the hardest. I’m scared I’ll wake up tomorrow anxious and not be able to snap out of it. Especially because I don’t have work tomorrow, which right now has been my distraction. I don’t know what this anxiety is and I know it’s irrational.

[Daisy425]

I am so glad it went okay! You made it through! I’m so proud of you, and so glad that you are on the mend. And thank you for the words of encouragement! It’s hard to get out of my head

[Hidden]

awwww Daisy. I know what you mean about mornings but don’t be so hard on yourself. Enjoy your time together and if you are feeling that way…get up and distract yourself, make breakfast…I’m sure he’ll appreciate it and it will give you chance to calm. I tried to hide my anxiety from who is now my husband as I felt embarrassed and he wouldn’t understand ….I learnt I have nothing to be embarrassed about and he understands it which is a gift in its self. Have a great weekend and let your anxiety melt away 🌻

[LoveforAll41]

"in a weird way I feel pressure to be okay" "I don’t know what this anxiety is and I know it’s irrational"

From these statements I think you are doing great work on understanding your anxiety and emotions Daisy! Of course you are going to feel a pressure to be okay, this shows that you care for your boyfriend and you would like to be able to enjoy time together. What a lovely thing to care about! What a beautiful thing this shows about you that you care for others. I don't think this anxiety is irrational at all! Of course you are going to be nervous if you feel like you are letting someone you care for so much down in any way at all.

As far as reframing goes, I think nervousness and excitement go hand in hand. I think that you are probably excited to see your boyfriend as well as nervous, I think there is a thin line there.

Also, even if you are not feeling good on the day, I think something we need to do as people is be vulnerable and open. Let your boyfriend see you at your worst, I think that you will probably be pleasantly surprised.☮️