Work anxiety and depression

[Zombiekitten]

Essentially I am miserable in my career and am feeling very bullied in my current job position. I don’t want to air it all out in a post because I’m paranoid. I just want to know if anyone has been a medical assistant and have felt looked down on and wanted to change careers? I’m in school for social work but I have a ways to go and can only do part time for now. I’m miserable and depressed over this and need advice. I will message more details to anyone willing to lend advice. Thank you guys ❤️

[msweely]

Hi there! I am a nursing assistant in school for my RN. In my job at a nursing home, i feel like i am extremely undervalued, along with my other coworkers. it is a very stressful job and i have to compartmentalize alot of my emotions and work through them. Some days i don't know if i can do it, but i love the work that I do and the patients I care for. that is what gets me through it. I talk to my therapist alot about this too!

[Zombiekitten in reply to msweely]

I believe I’m in the wrong field then. The real problem is I used to enjoy what I do but I’ve come to realize that I can’t stand working in doctors offices and working under and next to doctors. I do work with some wonderful doctors but many times I get very unlucky and I’m just no longer a fan of the tedious things I do. I’m a medical assistant so the scope of what I do is much smaller than a nurse. I just need to get thru school so I can leave and do what I really want to do. It’s just the meantime that is killing me feeling inadequate and extremely anxious.

[msweely in reply to Zombiekitten]

Definitely don't continue to stay in a job where you are unhappy!!

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry your being bullied...and as far as sharing here...it is safe...as long as you have your computer firewalls, anti-virus, and anti-spyware utilities up to date. Here also, there is an option when you post to make your post private and only can be viewed by members of the site. Your anonymous....as long as your not using pictures of yourself, displaying any address, phone numbers, or web sites your on like FB that may data mine your personal data.

I would also suggest you look for a different job on the side if you have no one at your work you can report this bullying too safely. Also look into career guidance counselling, all schools usually have that available to students.

[Zombiekitten in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you so much! I’m still figuring this site out. I’m going to speak to my manager and I know that it’s known this particular doctor isn’t a nice person and he’s done this to other people. I have anxiety to begin with and the demeaning attitude really wears on you even when you’re doing your best it’s almost Impossible to not mess up when you’re in that situation. I’m hoping something can be worked out but ultimately once I’m super uncomfortable somewhere I prefer to leave..especially since I wasn’t very happy to begin with before this.

[fauxartist in reply to Zombiekitten]

doctors.....from time and memorial some have been known to be jerks to underlings. This is a long long tradition for them to be rude and crude and down right insulting as they were once treated as Gods. Ergo the 'God Complex' many of them have. Your best shot is to explain that this antiquated superior mentality does not work in the real world anymore and your not accepting this kind of treatment from anyone. Keep a log of what is said, when and where...it will help you make your point, trust me...it freaks HR out and they worry about a harassment law suit...plus if they tried to fire you at this point for complaining, they would be less likely to because you cannot be fired when you've lodged a complaint you were the one being harassed, and you have a written record of it. HR would fear lawsuits more than telling a doctor to lighten up.

[Zombiekitten in reply to fauxartist]

That’s what I’ve been trying to do! I have things written. It’s just I always worry that I’m being ridiculous or no one will take me seriously. Everyone says how rude he is and how he bullies people so I mean I know I’m not CRAZY..it’s just I guess when I’m broken down and worried like this I just have a hard time thinking clearly. He complained about me and I was caught so off guard because I didn’t feel like anything I was doing was out of the ordinary. I explained to my manager that I was insulted and I felt he was picking on me. Now he just seems to be very aloof towards me and is very impatient with me in the exam rooms..mainly when I’m at their main office covering. It’s easier to make mistakes because it’s a lot busier and things are different there. I’ve done fine with the other doctors but I accidentally handed him the wrong thing because he was scoffing at me and making me very uncomfortable. My anxiety level has been so up because of him I’ve been losing sleep and feeling like I’m not good enough.

[fauxartist]

bullies are cowards,...they push people around because they can get away with it. Believe me, as you said he does it to others, your not the first to feel his wrath. And he gets a jump on you complaining about you, but I'm sure he has done a lot of complaining about a lot of people, because no one could meet his standards. Stop trying...do your job to the best of your ability...and let him spin...be a professional and focus on you and what you need to get done that shift. Put him in a box and close the lid...you take his orders...and don't take him personally...he's that way with a lot of people....and if he says anything really out of line....write it down discretely, don't talk to anyone about what your doing, don't complain about him with your peers, and stay low. Stop worrying about what anyone else says or thinks..you don't know what other people are thinking really, and most are only concerned with their own survival and their own stuff. Hang in there...this time in your life will pass....and you will look back on it and see a strength in yourself because you survived it...be strong...take pride in who you are, your worth respect...but this guy is not a person that gives it to anyone probably, so don't expect he's gonna change any time soon. Be your own advocate.

[jips]

I agree with fauxartist. Bullies are cowards. I know it's hard right now and I understand your in a fix but you'll work through it. By what your telling us your strong! Take it one day at a time and keep witting this stuff he's doing down. It'll help you get it out of your system and give you a record of what's going on. We're here for you!