Depression and work

[Tfraser224]

First time poster, any help or info would be greatly received, following the loss of both my parents 4 years ago along with other downfalls I’m feeling absolute despair, my gp has signed me off from work since 3/6/18 and I feel like there making me worse, I’m getting weekly calls “how are you now ?” Do you think your meds need changing, what symptoms have you got, I’ve had a meeting with occupational health and my managers and now they want another one I can’t help feeling this is adding to my issues, the last call I had suggested terminating my employment, I’m not sure how to deal with this, on top of my ongoing issues, any advice please and thank you x

[Raiden]

Thats alot to deal with mate i feel your pain. Don't let your thoughts consume you if you start feeling shit go for a walk and enjoy the beauty. Maybe get a dog from the pound if you can spare the coin. It helped me heaps i call him my therapy dog. Jobs come and go i know its alot to process but you need to focus on getting a positive state of mind. Dont think about the appointments just take them as they come theres no point getting angry over things that arnt in your control. Its a lot on your plate at once just take it easy dont beat urself up. Have faith bro

[Tfraser224 in reply to Raiden]

Hi and thanks for your response, I feel that this depression has gotten so deep rooted im struggling to get out of it, I can’t leave the house, I can’t sleep I’m having terrible panic attacks, I self reduced my meds due to work phone calls, thinking this would help me back to work but it had the opposite effect, my anxiety went through the roof again ( I have a thing whereby I feel/think I’ve got spiders on me) I’m at a loss as to what to do with these terrible thoughts and feelings

[Lakewolf]

If you’re on medical leave for your condition, I would ask somebody who knows employment law if the calls can be considered harassment.

Although they CAN terminate you, if it’s because of a medical problem, you should have no trouble at all obtaining unemployment benefits. Also apply for SSD if your doctor thinks that you’ll be out of work longer than a year.

[Tfraser224 in reply to Lakewolf]

Hi thank you for the reply, I can’t decipher whether the calls are caring or not, I think it’s because I feel in a state of confusion, I have seen occupational health when this first started and on my last call was told I’m being referred back there, which I don’t mind as they did help, it’s more the additional meetings with 2 managers that I’m struggling with, I feel like I’m in a zoo

[Lakewolf in reply to Tfraser224]

I know the feeling.😡😡😡

If you can’t work, (most) employers could care less about the response. Keep us posted, ok?

[Tfraser224 in reply to Lakewolf]

Tx I will do

[CaptainCrunch]

I am sorry for all your pain and grief. Glad you are here posting. Keep reaching out help. It is the right move.

[Tfraser224 in reply to CaptainCrunch]

Thank you so much

[kenster1]

sorry to hear that your suffering this has happened to me pretty much all this year.i suffer depression/anxiety I struggled for years and took a job only because I didn't want to face the benefit medical agency that I was due to see.for 4 months from December I was in a real mess mentally emotionally as we found out my dad had cancer and kidney failure my head was gone.then on easter sunday my dad passed away and I was off work for 4 weeks 3 for the lead up and one week after his funeral.i even went back to work earlier than planned.also my aunt had sepsis/dementia and she has been staying at my dads.after going back to work I had a mental breakdown and had some terrible days my job was totally grinding me down.i emailed and txt our manager and told him of my struggles and he just completely ignored me.i had to work everyday and it was torture.today my contract ended and they never even said thank or wished me luck.

[Hidden in reply to kenster1]

Wow Kenster, you have endured so much. Much love to you ❤️

[kenster1 in reply to Hidden]

thanks it means a lot.yeah I could tell a few stories of my troubles I just cant really say what got me through them but I have.uncertain few weeks ahead for me but ive got through worse.

[Hidden in reply to kenster1]

Well I’m glad you are done with that old job. I pray you find a better job and do something you love

[kenster1 in reply to Hidden]

thanks the company offered me a three week extension yesterday even although I told them weeks ago not to offer me one as im commited to caring for my aunt.today me and another workmate had been in the van and the boss came up and wished my mate all the best for the future as he leaves next week,i was sitting beside him and she just ignored me all because I never took the extension.all this week I have had a muscle tear in my arm but I was determined to see it through.just thought I deserved something from them but nothing I wanted to enjoy my last day but that spoiled it and ive been really down all day.

[Hidden in reply to kenster1]

Wow what a crappy person that woman is!! You did the right thing but not extending!!

[Tfraser224]

Oh wow that is truly awful, I really feel for you and hope things have got a little easier, it’s terrible to be treated that way at any time, but more so when you need care and time, it’s soul destroying x

[food_way]

yes, I can imagine how difficult it is for you. My heart goes out to you regarding your struggles. I pray that there is counselors in your area whom you can meet. I know it is not easy to just quit a job since it involves financial and insurance changes. I wonder if you have family members you can live with for a brief period (e.g. a few months) to help you out while you try to work through this depression journey? Or is it an option for you to find a less stressed job so that it is more manageable? my husband has depression for over 10 years and is still battling it daily. I know it is not an easy path. We are people of Christian faith and for us dependence on God's grace for courage to live daily is crucial. We wouldn't have make it otherwise. Big hugs & prayers to you

[Raiden]

Hey mate just a suggestion get on you tube and look up Ted talks anxiety and depression. Theres some good techniques to help deal with anxiety it helped me i hope it can help you. Take it easy mate