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Tried of the ups and downs of mental illness and relationship with my bf


I feel awful don't know why am still in a relationship with a man who use to beat me for everything made me feel worthless he don't use his hands to hurt me but he use his month to put me down than turn around and say he love me this is a sick mind game and am tried of playing it I drink alcohol for year's to numb myself and to be in my own world without him I use to pray that God would heal our relationship and he would change boy was I wrong I blame myself

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This is a dangerous roller coaster ride

In many cases the answer to this question can be summed up in one word. Fear.

There are usually 3 sides to every story. One side's story, the other side's story, and somewhere in the middle, the truth. It can be really hard for either side to make any concession if one or both are always trying to "win," though.

The only person who's behaviors I can change, personally, are my own. What can you do today that you didn't do yesterday, that is likely to improve your tomorrow? That is the key.

Hi can you leave this man? The phrase a leopard never changes his spots comes to mind. A lot of women make that mistake that you can change a man - it rarely happens. Then you think well if I did this that way or become a better person he would treat me better. Nope that doesn't work either. By the time you have suffered through this and gone through all the options you are beaten down and have such low self esteem that escape seems impossible. It's not though. x

I'm sorry your in a sad place right now, I found a good article at this site called Healthy Place called: Leaving An Abusive Relationship: Why Can’t I Just Leave? I thought it was a good read, hope it helps a bit.

I haven't been in a relationship in many years because I'm aware that my mental health is too fragile to trust in the hands of anyone else. Choose yourself first, hun. XOX

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