Rejected because of mental illness

[thelavendergirl]

Hey guys, I've been going through a lot for the past 2 days. I was rejected in a relationship because he thought our relationship is not going to be functional cause I have some relationship issues that need to be worked out. I was willing to put effort in that.. he was even asking me to do this and offering help at the beginning. Somehow everything changed over a few hours. I was about to commit suicide for the first time of my life yesterday because I can't handle the feeling.I was already insecure about the whole relationships thing and now it's 10X worse..

I know he's not the right person for me and he did me terribly wrong. He was being kind until I lowered my defenses and then did that.

If anyone here has gone through something like this, please tell me how did it go? How did you process that and kept being sane and functional? I have an exam in 4 days and I have no option I need to work that out fast or even be able to postpone dealing with it in my head..

[Coffeelover89]

Honestly, you need to know your worth. Your happiness is not defied by that relationship. If those issues are coming up, then it's best to figure things out on your own. Focus on yourself and what's important to you. I started an adult coloring book, and listening to music helps me. Also, going on a walk to calm your mind. Stay busy making yourself healthier, and take time for yourself to relax. It's important to love yourself enough to do those things. Of course seek a hotline for suicide that needs to be addressed right away, don't keep putting that off. I used 988 suicide and crisis lifeline. It was helpful to talk to someone and you can just text them super easy.

[thelavendergirl in reply to Coffeelover89]

Thank you so much! I appreciate your effort and time and I hope everything turns out amazing for both of us ❤️

[Coffeelover89 in reply to thelavendergirl]

Thank you!

[corgi_fan817]

thelavendergirl,

First, call for help and do not hurt yourself.

Thank you for coming to this site and telling us how you feel. I have been there. Part of you might feel rejected and part of you might be blaming yourself. Neither one of these feelings are good for you. You might also feel frustrated.

I am off to an appointment with my therapist. I will tell her that I am missing love in my life, a passion to sustain me, and a safe harbor for my emotions. All love is not romantic, but a relationship between ourselves, others, and our emotions. I also will say that I have too often tried to find love in others before finding in myself first.

We can love others, we can wish for others to love us, but we more importantly need to love ourselves first.

You need to give yourself time. I know it is hard to see that now. Please be patient with your feelings.

[thelavendergirl in reply to corgi_fan817]

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

I'm working hard on regulating my emotions and I just realized that. I cannot get into a sustainable, funtional relationship until I'm capable of loving myself. It's gonna be a journey but it's worth the effort..

[corgi_fan817 in reply to thelavendergirl]

That's good to hear. You sound like a person with a good and hopeful heart. That's hard to find in this world.

[Teaching]

I'm glad you know he's not the right person for you. When you see someone that truly loves you, he will help you get through obstacles. Please be hopeful and you'll definitely get there 🙏

[thelavendergirl in reply to Teaching]

It was just the beginning that set my expectations high.. but now that I know the truth I gotta accept it and move on.. Wish me luck, patience, and strength! ❤️

[Teaching in reply to thelavendergirl]

I wish you luck 🍀. You are beautifully made, don't forget that.