yesterday

[_apples_for_ryuk]

sunday’s are the worst days for me. i go to church but i hate my church. the two girls there are so mean and hateful, they make rumors about me all the time. my pastor says that stress and worrying is a sin, bc we don’t have all are faith in god i’m so tired of it....

[SpeaktheTruth]

If that’s what your pastor says...time to go to a different church.

[_apples_for_ryuk in reply to SpeaktheTruth]

that’s the thing i can’t my dad doesn’t want to i can’t talk to about anything

[fauxartist]

I agree with speakthetruth, the whole idea of having clergy is for support, compassion, and guidance. Not judgement and being dismissive. If you have someone outside the church you can talk to about these things, I would do that. Also, go to church at a different time than these two girls do, and if they confront you, just tell them what a disappointment they must be to do these things in the house of God who is a loving God of unconditional love, and they should be more like that than caddy little gossips.

[_apples_for_ryuk in reply to fauxartist]

yeah my dad doesn’t want me going to a different church because the church i go to he grew up in and wants us to grow up there too..i understand a little bit. i just wish he would understand.

[hypercat54]

Hi surely you can choose where to go? It's difficult to give advice without knowing your age so how old are you please? x

[_apples_for_ryuk in reply to hypercat54]

i’m 16.

[hypercat54]

Thank you. Well I would think at 16 you are old enough to decide for yourself first whether you wish to go to church and second where you want to go. Your father will have to accept that you are now old enough to make some decisions for yourself. x

[_apples_for_ryuk in reply to hypercat54]

thank you 💓

[sweetiepye]

Hi apples, I am a church person, attend faithfully, taught Sunday school for 10 years. Some of the meanest people I know go to church every Sunday and pretend to be Godly. Church members and Pastors are just people. They are people who don't always get things right. We all fall short, but we keep on trying. Those girls, you won't be able to change them, but you can change how you react to them. Let them know what they say isn't important to you. I would say ' I am a child of God. What you say about me is offensive to my Father.' But only if you are comfortable saying it. It is the truth you know. As for your Pastor, he has fallen short but you can't say that to him. You could try writing him a letter about how this situation hasn't changed your faith but it has changed how you feel in God's House..Let him know you dread going to church now and say to him 'I need your help' I don't see how he could ignore that. God bless you. Let me know what happens. Pam