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any body needing motivation/Inspiration?

this is a little story I have saved on my phone that I occasionally go back and read when im feeling stuck / trapped / hopeless or when I truly feel like I can't go on living the way I live. It always changes my focus, assists in changing my perspective and just makes me feel safe and okay.

ITS YOUR MINDSET

As my friend was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a rope tied to their legs. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from the ropes they were tied to but for some reason, they did not. My friend saw a trainer nearby and asked why these beautiful, magnificent animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away.

"Well", he said, "when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and at that age, it's enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free." My friend was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn't, they were stuck right where they were. The powerful and gigantic creature has limited its present abilities by the limitations of its past.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life holding onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?*** How many of us refuse to attempt something new and challenging because of our so called MINDSET?

Your attempt may fail, but never fail to make an attempt.

***I am in recovery for panic disorder accompanied with agoraphobia I "***"ed the third to last sentence because as much as that entire story completely resonates with me, that line is what I really need to work on. I currently am having trouble being in the now because my vision is being blurred by my past. My panic disorder developed because I started associating physical places with panic attacks based on where I was when I had one, or even what clothes I was wearing or the situation (OCD ASPECT) The first time I had a panic attack at school in elementary school I correlated school with panic and had to suffer panic attacks until I graduated high school. I got to college life was perfect until my first panic attack six weeks into class. panic attack at grocery, movies, driving, galleria, airplanes, avoided all of that until I didn't leave my house with my survival kit around me. the past is literally over. it doesn't exist anymore. this week I am going to work on not associating past experiences with what might happen, ill just try to go with it. hope this helps some of y'all!!!

xx

Kirby Lynn

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Thank you so much for sharing. Now I just have to figure out how to save it on my phone

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I have a picture of the Story. I’ll go find it and post it for you !!! Check back imin thirty

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thank you so much for sharing this. you have no idea how much this story has me thinking....I just can't thank you enough!

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That makes me so so so happy!!! Like actually brought me to tears. I read it all to my boyfriend. He knew tears were coming. I get relief from anxiety/depression/just feeling down by helping others. When i found this website where i could seek help or type help when i needed or during a panic attack and other people responded and told me it was normal i was so relieved and grateful then when i realized i could start using it not just for that- but when i come across anything that makes me smile, assists with my anxiety, or inspired me - i can post that too! The fact i could help you or give you something to love brings me tears of joy. I’m just super overly emotional but eee so excited for you. Thank you so much for letting me know!!!

Sending positive vibes both yalls ways!

Xx

Kirby

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What type of recovery are you in ?? Your story is very inspiring

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Recovery from agoraphobia and panic attacks/depression/anxiety which lead to substance abuse Bc I was so scared and wanted to escape my mind. Currently going through an anxiety “relapse” whatever you want to call it. Thank you though. Sorry it took me so long to respond I have been really depressed lately. It’s like I’m either on one side spectrum or the complete opposite side. Like feeling great and on top of the world or like scared not getting out of bed. Currently anxious Af and not leaving my bed and can’t wake up. Hopefully I will get back to feeling good again, I guess I can start with changing my words .. even though it’s so hard, but I will get better I know I will it’s jusf a rough patch right now. I hope all is well with you b

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Stay strong. Heed your own words. They are so true.

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That is amazing! Thank you so much. It is true that the bonds that hold us are self created. I’ve had bad situations happen at places I’ve lived and I move because that house holds panic for me. I can’t afford to keep moving but partly why I won’t buy a house. Wow! So wise for such a young girl! ❤️

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Thank you. Your words mean so much and put a smile on my face. I didn’t the same. I moved from like I said I think, Houston Texas, to Los Angeles, by myself! Because environment is key and I had too many correlates memories. I grew up there and every street and place triggered a really dark feeling or a panic attack. I have to make sure my room is clean and zenned our. Changing environments can do so much butnyou have to keeppp doing the work and face your reality because you can’t run from your mind you know? Thanks for the comment. I loved it. Put a huge smile on my face.

Sending happiness and positivity your way.

Xxo,

Kirby lynn

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Very inspiring. I didn't see things that way before. It is the mindset. Thank you for sharing this story.

P.s. i think you should repost this so it can get to more people to learn and help them❤

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I will right now

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