I'm just lonely.

I've been really depressed since my girlfriend left me. I just don't know how not to miss her when she was my best friend and a wonderful companion until she just decided to end things, because she said she needed a change in her life. It's been hard letting her go, and I haven't spoken to her since I can't remember when. But I still think of her every day and just wish she was still here to encourage me to be the best man I could be like she used to. She was just really inspiring. And very supportive. She taught me to love myself and to love a person for who they truly are and not who they could be. It's so hard being without her and I just wish I could tell her that and she could be there again. But her loss to me has been like dealing with a death and I just can't get beyond this depression. I don't know how I'm going to motivate myself and to see college through to its end when I lost the woman who inspired me to start going back in the first place. It just hurts losing her. I want to put my life back together already... please help.

[SGonzalez]

Hey, I'm really sorry to hear about you and your gf splitting up. In times like this it's kind of hard to take in any advice people give because it all seems cliche. Let me tell you though it does get better. It might seem like the bad days aren't going to end but they will. Take it one day at a time. You say she made you a better person and motivated you. Use that. Finish school the best you can. At least finish out the semester. After that you can take some time for yourself. I'm up if you want to talk.

[Hopeful-Tinkerbell]

You just put one foot in front of the other. She obviously was not the right girl for you or she would not have left. We can help encourage you when you are feeling down and a dog is really great companionship. If you think about it how perfect was she really? When we miss someone we tend to only focus on the good stuff. We wouldn’t miss them if we only focused on the bad. You are so young. You have a whole world in front of you. Take it from someone who knows! Live a little! Young people are in to big of a hurry to settle down and be grown. It’s not all it’s cracked up to be! Live, enjoy life, experience things etc while you have a chance. I never got to live alone or travel or party it up much. You have 21 years apx to be a kid and say 60-70 to be an adult that is tied down with so many responsibilities. Enjoy it while you can. I know at 18 we are considered adult but I think you should enjoy yourself first. If you can’t love yourself first you can’t expect others to either. Focus on creating a life for yourself and when the time is right you will find the perfect girl. One who won’t want to leave you or hurt you but enjoy life with you! Don’t rush it. Have fun while you can.

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Thank you for your replies. It's hard not to miss her when she left so suddenly without warning. You can read my previous post if you'd like a much longer introduction, but for all our individual flaws, my girlfriend and I really were good for each other for a while. It's confusing because I don't understand what went wrong, and it just hurts to lose someone important. I miss her a lot and still talk to her in my own mind, imagining the things she might say had she still been the same person I knew before. It's difficult being without her, though I know I have to move on. I'm just tired of losing important women in my life, and the wounds left behind with loss.