Feeling Isolated and Lonely At Work

[jramire5]

Hello everyone,

My name is Jennifer and about a month ago I’ve started a new job. I’m an entry level Data Analyst for a non-profit. I expected this job to be a place where not only can I grow within my career in an organization that shares a lot of my beliefs (women empowerment, immigrant empowerment) but a place where I can make friends because of the fact that we may all share the same beliefs. It has been the opposite of what I thought it was going to be. I thought my boss and I would get along and it turns out that it’s been a bit difficult. He’s not very personable with me and it’s kind of weird to me I guess because I’ve dealt with bosses who were more friendly and approachable. The department is small; it’s literally him, our director and myself so it’s really, really hard to make friends here. I work at another facility doing the kind of the same thing and that job is pretty independent so I’m basically alone 60 hours a week. I don’t have a significant other, I don’t have kids, so I feel like about 90% of my time is alone and it’s starting to get to me. I don’t really know what to do at this point because I would love to go and seek help but because of my schedule it’s been really hard. If anyone can give me any tips on how to get over this hump I’d greatly appreciate it. I know it’s going to take some time for me to make friends and things feel comfortable within my new job, I’ve only been here about 5 weeks. It’s still really rough, though. If anyone can reach out, I would love that. Thank you so much for reading.

[kenster1]

hi that's a shame about your job I hope it works out though.ive suffered depression/anxiety for years.i thought for me working in a busy environment was best as I had less time to dwell on life.in a smaller environment like your job it may make you think more about life.maybe make your little space brighter with flowers family pictures 60 hours is a real slog so its important to take as much time to relax as possible.

[jramire5 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you for your suggestions. I was also thinking of bringing flowers and plants in since I like them. Most of my jobs have been very people oriented so this is an adjustment. I hope eventually I can adjust because if I can’t I’m going to have to let it go. Thanks again!

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I can totally relate. I've kind of given up hope in my job.now I just come in do me work and only tall go people when they come to ask me questions. I know that it isn't an ideal situation, but honestly I was tired of making an effort and it not being received. So now I just stick to myself and enjoy my little cubicle. I decorate it to the holiday and stuff because it cheers me up to know I have a little place of my own in an otherwise unfriendly environment.

[gogogirl]

You must be very bright to be a data analyst. I take it you have a degree in IT? Any way five weeks is not long at all. Remember, lots of people just work together but do not become friends.