Looking for friends, depression has i... - Anxiety and Depre...

Anxiety and Depression Support

88,321 members82,830 posts

Looking for friends, depression has isolated me and I’m so tired of being lonely

Pooc profile image
Pooc
39 Replies

Hoping that someone will read this and want to start an online friendship. I’m a 42 year old woman who lives alone and suffers from severe depression. My depression and anxiety lead to isolation and I am hoping to find some people who can relate and want to chat in hopes of feeling less lonely.

Anyone out there who would like to share their experiences and hopefully help each other feel less alone living with depression?

Written by
Pooc profile image
Pooc
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Read more about...
39 Replies

Hi. I'm here. I am 46 with a family. With live with my mil right now because life has been so hard lately. I am alone most of the time. I have people all around me but I stay to myself for some reason and I am lonely too.

Pooc profile image
Pooc in reply to

Thank you for your reply. Just knowing others feel like I do makes me feel less lonely.

Hi and welcome to you.

Posting and replying to posts, I find helps me get to know people here better and can forge some lovely natural friendships..

You get to know people and that can then lead to messages privately being exchanged...

I hope others come along and say hello and interact with you here.

It takes a little time...in my opinion good friendships are best not too rushed..that’s just me of course, but I like to get to know people a bit first here on the forum see what they post etc....what we have in common etc.

I’m glad you found us here..

Every good wish 🌺🌺🌺🌻🌻🌻

Pooc profile image
Pooc in reply to

Thank you for your well wishes. I’m hopeful I can find like minded people who can help me feel less alone in my depression

in reply to Pooc

Yes I’m sure you will 😊

🌻🌻🌻🌻

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54 in reply to Pooc

Hi nice to meet you. I agree that if you join in with us you will make friends to pm with. Please do be careful though as people aren't always who they say they are so keep your private details to yourself until they have earned your trust. We have had trolls on here before who try and scam you. Stay safe online.

It's also a good idea to lock your posts to this community too. x

Pooc profile image
Pooc in reply to hypercat54

Thank you for your reply and your advice!

hypercat54 profile image
hypercat54 in reply to Pooc

You are welcome. You can also edit your posts/replies if you want to by clicking on the more button at the bottom. x

BonnieSue profile image
BonnieSue

Hi Pooc,

I understand your need and I can be one of several friends. I just can't be on everyday for a lot of hours. I've been treated for depression and anxiety for about 30 years now...seems like forever sometimes and occasionally like yesterday. I've been on a lot of different drugs but now my fiance is a good one to learn from regarding natural remedies so I'll be trying more of that. I help care for both parents and often take them to doctors. I have 3 grown sons and they also take some of my time with needing advice or dispensing it to me(!!). It's all time-consuming and I've only touched the surface in telling you a tiny bit.

So, that's a little about me. Will you tell me about yourself? Oh, I'm very artsy fartsy and love to be that way. Create beautiful things, garden, paint, do mixed media, whatever I can get my hands on. Think outside of the box. And for yourself? What do you prefer? Hugs, Love, and Blessings...😉🌿🌺💜🍁🌞🌸🌿

Pooc profile image
Pooc in reply to BonnieSue

I don’t feel like I have a lot to share about my life right now. In the past I worked in interior design and also enjoyed things artsy and creative. I have really lost my passion for most of the things I used to enjoy. I’ve been working hard to try to get healthy since November of last year when I had to leave my job due to my anxiety and depression. I can’t get my medicines right and although I go to therapy each week I am pretty stuck in my disease right now. Not much is helping and I feel like I have lost my purpose. I’m stuck in a pretty unhealthy pattern right now.

BonnieSue profile image
BonnieSue in reply to Pooc

Actually that's about where I'd expect you to be if you only had things happen as described in November. Not to worry. It takes time to re-establish your artsy side and you're probably not healthy enough as you stated regarding your medicines. That's to be expected. Happened that way for me, too.

I agree with Hypercat about you leaving many personal details for personal messages...just to be safe. You decide which things to tell the community and which to tell only the people you call closer friends. But you will see many people tell a lot of personal things to the whole community and have no problem...it's a good community for the most part. But caution is sometimes needed, it's up to each person to determine how they feel.

If you could change 1 unhealthy thing right now, what would it be?

BonnieSue profile image
BonnieSue in reply to Pooc

Pooc, answer me in a pm if you want to, ok?

How does a sixty nine old married man sound lol.

Can I help, is the problem just lonelyness or something more that is causing prooblems.

The world today has never been as full of people yet so many people out there are so very lonely it is so very sad.

I gather you live in the States, can you not find a club of like minded people or hobbies, also diversions where you can control your isolation.

In my case I am lucky although I still need to interact with my interests and expectations, I need to divert my mind into things I enjoy to divert my thoughts away from the negativity that kicks me back into a bad corner that I have problems getting out. In ot up with our negative thoughts and expectations.

Consider activities you enjoy, Start and move on

BOB

Hi, I am forty and was agoraphobic for ten years. So you aren’t alone on here. I hope you find peace.

AlwaysSmiling5 profile image
AlwaysSmiling5

Hi Pooc. I just turned 50, and am going through a bunch of stuff which you read about in a post of mine. I would be honored to be your friend! I am not always online, but I do check for messages, and if you leave one I will respond. It is good to have a place like this to help one another get through the bad times. Keeping you in thought and sending hugs...❤

JEG325 profile image
JEG325

Hello, Pooc, I'm a 58 year old guy and I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression + PTSD. I use supplements and natural treatments to treat myself with but, I understand others who have my symptoms well. Please pm me whenever you want to. Okay? Have a blessed day, my friend!

jjrp profile image
jjrp

Hi,

I’m also going through some of the same stuff. Let’s exchange messages and hopefully we can form an alliance! In my case I’ve suffered a relapse and I’m still trying to find some balance after 2 months. Hope to hear from you, and that your feeling a little better today.

physicalman profile image
physicalman

HI, I am here to listen and give support, I suffer from this horrible day to day battle as well, u r not alone although we may feel like we r! god bless, frank

optimuscoolbeans profile image
optimuscoolbeans

Hello there. As you can see there are a lot of us who relate to what you are going through. Support wagon is ready and willing for you to jump aboard.

LilyAnnepuppy profile image
LilyAnnepuppy

Welcome to the community. I wish I had found it sooner. I identify with your feelings. Was diagnosed with major depression anxiety disorders a year and a half ago. Spent most of that time laying in bed gripping the comforter, crying and praying to God to please help me. I was/am under care of psychiatrist and therapist and had to wait until they found combination of meds which would work. Started to feel better about a month ago so I can tell you there’s hope.

Pat9 profile image
Pat9

I am a lot older than you but due to various health impediments I don't get out much am always around of you want to chat on the other end of an email basically :) XX

I am lonely and isolated too. I've been diagnosed with Depression and Anxiety and im.agoraphobic. I just started taking antondepredsant citalopram. 8 days in. I'm scared and dont know what the future holds. I'm trying to trust the process. I hope you do too. I may not be of much help, but wanted you to know yo are not alone.

Philjc profile image
Philjc

Hi,

First time I read thru this I thought oh I hope she's careful, someone nasty might make contact, realising that you may be vulnerable.

I know of ladies in the UK here that have been contacted, made friends with guys and been asked to send funds to their friend so he can come marry her.

Surprisingly they send money but no one turns up.

Take care. x.

Downandout123 profile image
Downandout123

I live in the U.S. also. Can you find meetups near you? Just google meetup.com and put in your zip code. See what events are in your area. Sometimes it's tricky to find one with people in your age group, but they definitely have them. You can see how much support you have here. A lot of times we think we are the only ones suffering from loneliness, but look how many people there are here who have replied. And so many more.

Froghead6 profile image
Froghead6

goodmorning to you im johnny i too feel your pain been along road dont have any guy friends use to be affraid to go places to just going to church and believe in the holy spirt and excerise helped try amino acids and aswanda a indian ginsing should help the anxity keep in touch godbless

KMarti19 profile image
KMarti19 in reply to Froghead6

Yes praying and believing in God our Father is a big help always

Gjkas profile image
Gjkas

Hello Pooc,I'm so sorry you feel so lonely. Ive got a lovely Husband and 3 really Great Sons, but I still feel so very sad and lonely. I am in such a lot of pain, and in and out of hospital all the time, i just get so depressed. The thing is, unless you've had it you don't know what it's like.I haven't been out of the house for about 7 years, except for when I go to the hospital or Doctors, and that's only because my Husband makes me go. Ive got a hospital appointment tomorrow but I'm dreading it. I know i will have a banging headache because I have to go out. But nobody seems to understand. I don't want to talk to anybody,even on the phone. Please know Pooc that you are not alone. Can you knit or do sewing, something like that. Even a little bit of Gardening while the weather is not too bad, that's if you can manage it..If you can't go shopping, you can order things like knitting needles and wool on the internet. I know that these idea's are not a cure, and I'm certainly not a Doctor but I hope that perhaps they will help. Depression is horrible and i think it should be taken more seriously ,not just be given tablets to take. TABLETS DON'T HELP LONELINESS AND LONELINESS CAUSES DEPRESSION. I hope you will be feeling better soon. Try to find a hobby ,it might help until you feel a little better. Tara for now. Take care. Glojo

Gjkas profile image
Gjkas

See what I mean Pooc .I signed out as Glojo. BUT I AM GJKAS.XX

MY HEAD IS JUST NOT WITH IT TODAY

WILL HAVE TO GET MY ACT TOGETHER SOMEHOW..................... .

Jlrg profile image
Jlrg

Hi

I can totally relate. I live alone and have tried different things to make friends. To no avail. Tried community centers. Church. I hope to be able to make some online support.

Hello and welcome

You can chat with me if you like.

Lisa1313 profile image
Lisa1313

Hi, I’m 42 years old as well, I also suffer from anxiety and depression for the past 4 years with the worst part of it being in the last ten months. On bad days, which is almost everyday, I get out of work and I islolate myself as well in my apartment. I have never taken medication because I was always to afraid to talk to anyone and I was embarrassed to ask for help. I was divorced for the second time (both my decision) about 4 years ago and that was when I started having panic attacks. It’s never gone away but recently got worse. I live with my boyfriend who is absolutely amazing but I still have this feeling of being lost and feeling like I don’t know where my life is going and constantly obsess about it. I know it’s irrational but I can’t help it. On days I’m depressed I can hardly get off the couch. I hope you know there are people out there like you and that’s re there for you. I’ve never talked to anyone about this until now so thank you for writing this post. You’re helping people and that’s something to feel good about :)

Tetelatia profile image
Tetelatia

Hello there. I battle depression and anxiety also. Been dealing with it for years. Lexapro use to work wonders for depression but in the last few years it hasn't been as effective. I have a medical marijuana card and some of the products have been helping me. Feel free to reach out anytime. I pray you feel better soon.

Remmao profile image
Remmao

I'm 57. This could be my post. I too am do very lonely and am becoming more and more isolated. I'd love to visit. I'm new here.

Want2BHappy3 profile image
Want2BHappy3

I'm 64 and know exactly how you feel, my kids have chosen to isolate me as a way to deal with it. I've been suffering with anxiety and depression off and on for about 36 years. I had to retire early because of my anxiety, I kept having breakdowns. I'm living off my savings which is half gone, don't know if I can work? So I'm scared for my future? Feel free to write whenever you feel you need to vent? You don't mention counciling? You should look into it?

pink83737 profile image
pink83737

I have anxiety and depression too! It’s important that we all help each other in this community! I’d love to be friends ❤️ you definitely aren’t alone, i promise you that! Even if it feels like you are you really aren’t! Hugs xx

Smartmam profile image
Smartmam

I am here to listen . Hopefully it might help both of us.

Froghead6 profile image
Froghead6

hi im johnny read your story i can relate ive been alone for yrs anxity just takes over i do have a girlfriend but dont have any guy friends mabe youll find someone that understsnds us ill people ive learned its not our fault well chat soon take care and godbless

abc30 profile image
abc30

If you are alone, probably it has a great impact on your feelings. Let's broke this state. For instance try to not think to yourself, try to help people around you. Or you can take a dog and take care of him. Do anything you like or want and stop thinking of you.

Poodie profile image
Poodie

Yes, I would like a support group on line. Just to know that others are going thru similar struggles would help so much. I isolate too when I get this depressed. I am lonely but I do not want to go out. I will write in and try to comment whenever I feel I can be helpful. I need support right now. I am trying to move myself forward and function. It is so hard.

Poodie

You may also like...

I feel so lonely, tired and depressed.

I feel so lonely, tired and depressed. Feeling like my life has lost its meaning, because everyone...

I’m so tired of being obsessed with my heart

I’m so tired of it I want it to stop every day. Yesterday with whatever my heart did put me deeper...

I’m so tired of hurting

in all this work to feel better. But I’m just so tired and worn out from feeling like this. I panic...

I’m so tired. I think it’s the depression.

daughter and I’m really tired now. I think it’s partly due or due to my depression. I just want to...

First post. I’m lonely and depressed

and really want to try to start liking who I am again but it been so long since I have it feels...