Depressed and feeling lonely

[Sunwillcomeout12]

For the past few weeks, I’ve been more depressed and anxious than I’ve ever been. I’ve been isolated from my friends and can’t get myself to do anything. I have been going to see my therapist. I have always been that friend that everyone comes to when they need to vent or talk to, and now I’m noticing when it’s me in trouble or needs someone to talk to, no one is there. I feel so alone. I have so much going on and my friends know that and I feel like sometimes they think I’ll just get over things or they just don’t don’t value our friendship as much as I do. Or that I’m simply just a friend they need so they can vent to but not a friend they can really enjoy their time with. It breaks my heart when I think of it that way, but it does seem to be the case sometimes. I almost feel resentment towards all these people that I was there for during their hardest times. I helped people during their darkest times and I just feel so painfully ignored now. I just wish people would check in with me and see how I’m doing, because I’m really not okay.

[akbj]

I understand feeling like that. Sometimes I think when people have been used to seeing you as the strong person in their lives they forget you also have struggles & might need their support. I actually feel that way the older I get & I´m 60 now! If possible at all it might be worth letting down your hair to your closest friend or whomever you feel most comfortable with & letting them know how you feel? I think your friends might forget because they´re so used to seeing you as the strong person in their life. We all like having someone available to talk to when we feel bad & they might just forget that you feel bad sometimes also. I know, easier said than done.

Maybe try with a text or email first? You seem like a good writer. Even just a text asking if they would be able to meet you for a coffee or something, then you could start from there? I don´t really know what to say here, I know it´s hard. I feel that way too.

[Marysblue]

I feel the same way a lot of the time. I've been isolated cause of fear of covid for over a month.I don't have any support. But people are also stressed out now.

It seems like the whole world is depressed after what we've been through this last two years. So people have just changed. It may not be about you , it may be all about them.

I think fear makes people withdraw and be more self-centered. This is the world we lived in for the last few years. Like a collective ptsd.

[Roxylox]

To Sunwillcomeout12

So sorry you are feeling like that. I never felt l got enough support from siblings and friends around 2 fairly recent traumas.

I turned to online peer support on Zoom which helped me a lot. Of course everyone is different.

This site , bowever , was my first port of call.

I will always be grateful for tbe support on here.

I love your username by tbe way.

Full of hope and brightness

[Midori]

Your friend are so used to you providing the strong but soggy shoulder that they probably don't realise that you are currently in need of advice and help.

Reach out to them, and then you will find out which ones are truly friends.

Cheers, Midori

[KJnOTT]

I get what you are saying, I struggle with the same thing. One thing I have learned through feeling rejected and disappointed in that I sometimes jump to assumptions about what others may be thinking or feeling. Its been such a difficult time for many - the social isolation we have all experienced is intense. I encourage you to shift your focus on yourself for awhile - feed your mind, body and soul on a daily basis. Start to work through your feelings with someone so that you can be in a healthier place to sustain your friendships. Hang in there.