is he cheating?

[ach21607]

So I have to say my gut has been telling me my husband is cheating all of a sudden. first he pushes my hand away from his phone then starts going into the bathroom with another chick and closes the door then I find a worn tank top shirt that's a bigger size then me? And he tells me I'm crazy what do y'all think?

[Rjsurk1]

Its hard to say if someone is cheating on you without knowing them. But from my experiance i can say i had a girlfriend get offendedwhen i try to look at her phone and go into the other room to make calls . She was cheating on me . I know depression is hard im dealing with mine now . If you need to talk im here to listen . Hope to hear from you , rob

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Why don't you ask him!

[Hidden]

And you post a pic of him why? 😒

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I was wondering that too!

[4myMomAVB]

Have you talked to him?

[Depressed1996]

I sure hope he's not cheating!!

[Itsjustmeagain]

My advice take it or leave it is just play it cool , if he is and thinks your clueless he will let his gaurd down and your find out . And if he is not cheating you haven't caused trust issues with him.

Best of luck . I feel for you

[Searching123 in reply to Itsjustmeagain]

Completely agree with this ^^^^

[Cbutler34]

If he is moving your hand from his phone, he is most definitely hiding something. My husband has done me the same way and I know for a fact he has cheated on me. Another thing, you said he went into the bathroom with another chick, that is crazy. I'm sorry you going through that. We've got to get our selves together so we can move on.

[CaptainCrunch]

Sadly my wife has cheated on me multiple times. We are currently struggling to reconcile through her last affair with a "once" very close friend of mine.

Turns out life is so very complicated and by the time we become adults our minds and thinking can already be so messed up for you and for him. Affairs are 100% fantasy but marriage is reality. Marriage is two free willed people choosing to come together and support each other for life. My wife and I were unhealthy from the get go. Her a dependent and me a co-dependent. She wanted a dream life where I met all of her needs and I need to feel wanted so I worked so very hard to please her.

I could go on and on with all our mistakes, hers and mine. But for the moment the two of you need good healthy boundaries. However dealing with an individual that is full of shame is very difficult because first they may not even realize they have hidden shame do to high levels of pride. When they find out they do have it it is so painful that they would rather run for the hills than discuss it and get free from it. This is why I think they cheat. Once all the sparks cool down from a marriage and real life starts to settle in they believe/need that fantasy which is why affairs become a possibility because the individual doesn't like how they do real life and affair partner's care very little about the cheaters long term welfare. That is my 2 cents.

If I were in your shoes today don't mess around with trying to catch him. That just leads to more bitterness and hate. You have to keep yourself healthy. Find time to sit down with him and talk. Ask him if he wants this marriage to work? If he does then ask him about the incidences that have occurred and tell him how they hurt you. He may not be able to do this but he needs to learn to validate your feelings. He should be able to explain what each incident entailed to help put your mind at ease. At this point he may lie to you but here is where you get to set some boundaries. 1 being either of you being alone with some one of the opposite sex. It just doesn't look good and it hurts you when he does and it makes you feel like you can't trust him. Another is giving you access to yours and his phone for the same reason you want to trust him and he you. I would hope that together you can work towards intimacy... "in to me you see" but it is going to be very painful for the both of you because you both have to be vulnerable. And that is dangerous territory to someone who has been hurt.

[Windy101]

My husband cheated on me. I suspected something was wrong, and eventually the truth came out. Whenever I brought it up, he would deny it. I would say, trust your gut. Pushing your hand from your phone, going in the bathroom with another girl - those are not the actions of a husband with nothing to hide. Most spouses would not like those things happening AT ALL. I don't know if your husband is cheating on you, but in my experience I wish I'd listened to my intuition and stopped putting up with his lies.

[Pjmmtr01]

Uhmmmm he's cheating

[Brakiy]

If you have any doubts, you are probably right. If he truly cared for you and your concerns, he should be more than willingly to show you his phone and prove there is nothing to hide. Yes, phones are personal, but trust within your relationship is more important. I hope he is not doing anything inappropriately. I caught my boyfriend cheating on me and it wrecked me for months. I am still not over it and can't move on. You can message me if you wish to chat about it more.

[MaggieSue1]

I was depressed for a really long time because i married the man i thought was the love of my life. We were married 6 years. A year and half into the relationship he became a completely different person, he even went ahead and rub his infidelities in my face sometimes and when i try to tell my friends about it they don't always believe me because he pretends a lot when they're around. So i decided to get the truth out myself, i contacted BIRDEYE.HACK at GMAIL.COM and i got real-time access to his entire phone for a reasonable fee.

It was then i was able to prove to my friends and family how much of a bad person he is. I was able to leave the marriage peacefully and with our only daughter with me due to the dirt i got on him. All thanks to Birdeye!

[MsGelfling1]

Yes, he's cheating. Dump him. No man is worth this crap and God knows they can dish out crap. They're obviously cheating and have the nerve to blame us. My husband used to take off for three or four days, I never knew where he was, and he'd come home and blame me for screwing around on him. Guess where he is now! I don't know either and it makes me very, very happy.

[BonnieSue]

It sounds like he's cheating. In the photo, he doesn't look like anyone I'd want to know or trust, I'm sorry. Sorry for your illness and this problem of suspicious behavior from him. My husband was a major "catch" when we married and for a long time afterward. Fortunately he had no respect for cheaters, disdained them, and never cheated on me. He never in 42 years went into the bathroom or anywhere similar with another woman, door open or closed. He knew better, didn't play games like that, wouldn't take a risk like that.

Telling you you're crazy is a classic liar's, manipulator's and cheater's tactic. Classic.

Research controlling behavior, passive-aggression and more...wherever that research leads you to the experiences like yours so you understand what's going on and can counteract it. Please protect yourself from any STDs and from his taking possession of all of your shared assets behind your back: money, property, goods...and of any children (your most precious of shared "things").

Hugs, Love, and Blessings...

[Agora1]

ach21607, did he cheat? x