My mom has Alz, she recently had surgery, she lives over 300 miles from me. At the time, i didnt want to go visit to give suport. I had reasons, work, money, such as that. I was talked into going by my coworker which i'm glad she did. I arrived at my destination at 8pm. She asked me why i didnt go to the nursing home where my mom was. I told her it was dark, and i couldnt see too well at, not to mention i just drove over 300 miles to get there by myself. She told me youre always making excuses, and she didnt mean to hurt my feelings. She did, i cried real hard after my moms surgery, it may have been grom bundled emotions. My sister told me the dr. Wants to see mom in 2 weeks. If the sugery didnt work hes ta lking amputation. Im choosing not to go this time. I keep asking myself does it make me a bad person.