Struggling today

[Fresher]

3 weeks for me today but oh boy could I have one right now,,,, grrrr so annoyed with myself, deep breaths &/

[ChrissieG]

Fresher CONGRATULATIONS sweetie - I didn't know it was 3 weeks today - you should have said, that is so fantastic

Well done you, and you are doing so well! If that trigger is still going well tell it to sod off - you DO NOT WANT A CIGARETTE BECAUSE YOU HAVE STOPPED SMOKING! Just keep saying positive things to yourself - and of course breathe!!!

Do squats at the kitchen sink, walk around the garden or sit and brush your hair! I did actually do that for one trigger! Hey, you could come and do my ironing - how about that then?

This time next week we re going to be celebrating your 4 week badge - and you know how much I love to do a bum wiggle happy dance so stay strong, you will get through this xxx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Thankyou and yes I'm pacing up and down and around at the minute then thought I know I'll have some maltesers and some buggers ate them

[jillygirl Administrator Queen Bee in reply to Fresher]

Hi Fresher, why not nip out for some more maltezers, by the time you get back the craving might have gone. Your really doing great , stay positive. xx

[ChrissieG in reply to Fresher]

Sorry baby but that made me laugh out loud!!! NOT FUNNY - SO NOT FUNNY! Sorry

Where's hubby? Send him to the shop to get you some more maltezers or anything else you fancy - get 2 bags and hide the 2nd one, that is for the next emergency! ha ha ha xxx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER in reply to ChrissieG]

Haha glad it made you laugh

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Thanks Chrissie and Jilly much appreciated, where's hubby? He's outside having a cig aarrgghh lol keep looking at the fruit but it just doesn't hit the mark lol. Your ironing a not enticing me either funnily enough. Think I've nearly sucked the life out this implement :/

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to Fresher]

Oh Fresher, your words "I've nearly sucked the life out of this implement" really is soooh true to my heart. I would at times be the very same when my hubby is having one! I just had to laugh at your expression of it. But we are non smokers so we really don't want a dirty smelly cig. We just have to keep telling ourselves that. You are doing a great job so just keep telling yourself that as well. x

[Hidden in reply to Briarwood]

Hey hang on in there Fresher and Briarwood, it does get easier, I used to go stand outside at work on smokers corner with my e-cig while the others smoked real ones and I never even noticed they were smoking. Mind you s'pose it's different when you actually live with a smoker, I would struggle too, I would be so jealous of them. But when you've well and truly kicked the habit your hubbys will be secretly jealous of you.

[ChrissieG in reply to Hidden]

I have to admit, your husbands smoking must be a terrible pressure on you, it really is a credit to you that you are doing so well, very impressive actually! So well done ladies xx

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to ChrissieG]

Thanks Chrissie x

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to Hidden]

Yes I suppose ur right about the jealous bit, thanks. I'll try and hang on to that thought in the meantime

[Hidden in reply to Briarwood]

Mind you my husband gave up 10 years ago while I carried on smoking, ummm I don't remember ever being jealous of him. But.......I was a die hard smoker, I'm only still not smoking cos I couldn't stand my husbands wrath and moaning on if I started again

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to Hidden]

:- D

[ChrissieG in reply to Hidden]

Brilliant - and so funny!!! - well long may you fear his wrath then Sin ! How did he manage to stop smoking by the way? xx

[Hidden in reply to ChrissieG]

He did cold turkey. He started off with patches I think, but he only used one, thought they were stupid and just didn't smoke. He did say for quite a long time he used to sneak just one ciggie a day out my pack and then smoke it when I was at work but he said in the end he came to realise that one a day was just prolonging the agony so he stopped nicking my ciggies.

[ChrissieG in reply to Hidden]

I do think that men are so good at cold turkey - even Allan Carr in his book went on about how there were no effects from stopping smoking! It beggars belief really because there flipping are but I do think women seem to feel them more. Your hubby did really well didn't he to stop like that. xx

[Hidden in reply to ChrissieG]

Yes he did do well, especially as I was still smoking and he was very much a habit smoker. Light up whenever he went out in the car, before he made a phone call, etc, it all seems such a long time ago, can't imagine him smoking at all now. Perhaps us ladies get a bit more emotionally involved with smoking and maybe men are not quite as stressy or maybe they're just plain stubborn.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

actually now I think about it, in the earlier months whenever we had a row or tiff I used to think right I'm going out to get some cigs that'll teach you, but I could never bring myself to do it, I always thought, umm, well that's just cutting my nose off to spite my face. I suppose you just get to the point of no return and after all the hard work and suffering think no, I can't start smoking again.

[ChrissieG in reply to Hidden]

That would definitely been cutting off your nose to spite your face - so so glad you didn't do that xx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER in reply to Briarwood]

Haha glad it's not just me then, our poor implements haha

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Thanks again Chrissy, Sin and Briarwood. Happy to say I'm still smoke free and thanks so much for all your support it has got me through today, your all amazing. Briarwood and me still smell gorgeous next to our smelly hubby's lol

[ChrissieG in reply to Fresher]

Fantastic - but I'm still gutted you didn't think my ironing would be the perfect distraction though xx

[Hidden in reply to ChrissieG]

I like ironing, I find it very relaxing. I don't do it that often I must admit, I do it on an as and when needed basis, one item every day or so but I do enjoy it, find it very therapeutic. Oh except trousers with a crease down the front, they do my head in, basically because clothes makers don't sew them together right in the first place. I used to get hubby to iron my trousers for work, otherwise I would just iron them below the knee and think oh sod it that'll do. Oh and blouses, they're a right pain too, and tee shirts come to think of it, always end up ironing creases in them where you don't want them. Actually do I like ironing? - yes teatowels, pillow cases and table clothes, nice square things.

[ChrissieG in reply to Hidden]

Well you would have had a nightmare today doing my ironing - 3 pairs of work trousers all with creases down the front! 1 pair was quite slippy too so kept sliding all over the place! Actually I don't mind ironing once I get started, but the actual getting the ironing board out is the hard bit - when it's out I'm fine!!! And it definitely stopped me thinking about smoking/vaping whilst I was doing it!

I never iron tea towels, I rarely iron pillow cases and I never iron duvet covers. I love ironing men's shirts - I do them so well and they just look great !!! Got to admit, I haven't done one for a while though xxx

[Hidden in reply to ChrissieG]

no I don't do duvet covers either, but I love a freshly ironed pillow case, they smell all nice and snuggly.

[Briarwood Administrator Ducky in reply to Fresher]

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Haha I know strange that I didn't fancy that Chrissy :), oh I had something else spurring me on to, Briars picture of monkey, expecting him to come trundling round the corner on his bike to whip my ass if I had one haha

[ChrissieG in reply to Fresher]

Oh my gosh - that is a scary thought and you know he would!!!! What a wonderful deterrent, the thought of Monky on his bike coming to sort you out! I'm not surprised you resisted thinking of that

ha ha ha ha ha - scary monky - perfect! xx

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

I wouldn't mind ironing if their wasn't so much of it.

[gibbers 7 MONTH WINNER]

Congrats on the 3 weeks! I'll hit mine on Thursday and I can relate with you right there. Not sure what your method for quitting is (my current attempt is the e-cig) but from my past experiences, this is the darkness before the dawn as they say. I've been struggling worse and worse as of late but don't give up ^_^.

[Fresher 8 MONTH WINNER]

Thanks for the congrats and same to you, not much in our quit time so yes you can definitely identify with how I'm feeling right now, and brilliant that you think it should start feeling better soon, I hope so lol. I too am using the e cig, what's left of it, think I've nearly killed it