Oh!! I boarded the wrong train, you please don't...

[pratyaya_23]

Sometimes, we all ( i think everyone, may b wrong) have encounter with some human beings , people, situations, environment etc, which we realise with the course of time, that the above things n many more such, are not worth to spend ourselves on them, not worth enough for us to invest in them ( I'm not saying they are not at all worthy, what I'm trying to say is, they are not worthy for our energy, but can be for someone else and I dont have any conflict within me regarding other's worth n all ,I never judge/analyse ppl in generalised way, it depends simply on wat I mutually share with them)... so as I was saying, with the course of time, we do realise whether we are investing our energy in right direction or not. The efforts, the investment we put in be it emotional, mental, physical, financial etc in any other possible way.

The problem is not ,that why we encounter such situations, this is what life is!! But once we realised, its important or better say will be best for our own wellbeing to stop investing our energy and try to come out of that. But somehow, we ( atleast me) get stuck in it, cant or may be not trying to stop it, reason can be logical or hopelessly vague ( obviously I can try to convince both reasons to others)... but truth is I'm not able to stop it, come out of this!! It might be possible that knowingly or unknowingly it has become my comfort zone or may be it satisfies my ego or it has become my weakness or may be I'm more afraid of losing than draining out myself, reason can be anything. I understand what harm its causing to me, how much I'm losing myself in this process, I'm constantly making efforts to fill up other's glass when I know I'm draining out fast. Its getting complicated or better say I've made it complicated n continously failing my efforts ( whatever small I'm making). I know its not happening just with me, I'm not alone in this boat of not able to getting out of situation, there are many others like me out there.

My intention behind sharing this is very simple: dont repeat or do the same errors which I've made or I'm making, even if one of those who are reading this, find some thing worth frm this writeup to implement in (H)is/er life, to save him/herself... I'll be blessed n grateful.

To conclude this I can add this much only: 'coz its life, sometimes we succeed and sometimes we fail.... keep trying is the key n giving up is not an option!!

[Angelsfolks]

I feel you here.

I have been struggling with my own mental health for years and I too struggle with putting myself before others and taking care of my own needs. I constantly feel drained and burnt out and find myself becoming almost angry for lack of a better word ... Maybe frustrated is better ... But I get overwhelmed and upset sometimes when I help and help and then I need help and no one wants to be bothered. I do so much for others that my physical health takes a toll along with my mental health. And yet It feels like when I need it and I reach out finally, everyone I take care of turns their backs and expects me to be able to be strong enough to do it alone.

But this is where that analogy of the oxygen masks comes in ... You have to put your own on and take care of yourself first before you can be there to help the others....

Be strong and believe in yourself

[pratyaya_23 in reply to Angelsfolks]

Very true!! We have to put our own ocygen masks on and take care of ourself first before we can be there to help the others....