Depression and anxiety are back

[ang95]

Hi everyone,

Merry Christmas,

I'm supposed to be studying for exams but I'm feeling demotivated, my boyfriend is dealing with his own stuff and we're barely talking even when I try to talk to him he ignores me sometimes

so I talked to him lately asking if anything is fine! he said he's so depressed and was busy with things going on but he's better now.. I couldn't talk about my feelings to him because that would probably make him feel bad again

Now i feel it's hard to talk to him, it's probably hard to talk to me too, but obviously, he didn't wanna share what he was going through and i don't wanna force him to talk about it

Me in the other hand, i'm just feeling sad that i can't help, talking to him and spending time with him would always make me feel better but it's not the same for him

I just can't stop thinking about all of this.. above that, i get so anxious about the exams usually and i have an internship after that so i'm really frustrated about what should i do and how!!

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Ang

I used to be the same at College, my Exam program was very hectic, three grouped certificates, four times a year and I used to become anxious and very depressed as I was engaged at the same time. Sad when at college we can have so much going on our personal life becomes secondary and then sad to say relationships become secondary and the relationship becomes stressed.

You are coming into Christmas, relax together and gently try and turn the conversation around to his concerns, and yours, Try not to blurt things out just go easy and hopefully you may find you can calmly sit and talk together

Good Luck

Merry Christmas

BOB

[ang95 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the support i really appreciate it

Merry Christmas

[Abestar]

Hi there Ang

This is obviously a very difficult time for you right now. None of us know what goes on inside someone else’s mind. We can only speculate. It may be that he doesn’t want to share because it makes him feel worse talking out aloud about it. He may be aware that you have your own issues and again he doesn’t want to feel the pain of hearing someone else’s distress.

People can feel different things at different times and this may be such a time that he feels less communicative. Consider letting him have his own alone time. Doesn’t necessarily mean he is any the less committed.

This will also help you to get back on track on the revising for your exams.

In effect by being overconcerned about where he’s at is a huge distraction for you. You could say it’s a form of well meant procrastination, because you care so much. But you also need to take care of yourself.

You might find it helpful to see yourself as you’re number one priority.

Afterwards you can help someone else- if they want you to.

Know what I mean? Good luck with your exams and everything else! Xx

[ang95 in reply to Abestar]

Thank you for the support ♥

we spent some time together and we had fun and everything is better now even though we didn't talk much about how we felt the previous days but as long as things are good I'm relieved.