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This Helper Sometimes Gets Overwhelmed

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Hi, I am JEG 325. I have been on the ADAA site for about 3 weeks. I love helping people and giving motivational, uplifting comfort to those who need it. Unfortunately, I get overwhelmed myself sometimes. I suffer from amxiety, depression, panic disorder & PTSD. The other thing is that I don't believe in drugs. I have never taken one in my life and never will if I can help it. I do well with several prescription vitamins & additional one I voluntarilly take. Additional counseling helps too Though I give and give and give, I have a huge heart and don't know when to stop. This morning I had 26 messages waiting when I woke up! I'm wondering if maybe I might have bit off more than I can chew? One weakness I have noticed on my favorite sight is that I cannot get anyone to talk to me continuously. My fondest wish would be someone that could message back and forth long enough with me so I can have an actual conversation. Any advice or help would be appreciated. Thanks for listening

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Hi Jed, that is exactly why i said to private message me if you want to. It can become pressure, i have made that mistake before. The other thing is that when you have strong views on something like medicine, you are going to get people who disagree . I am sure that you are not trying to convert anyone so that will just distract you. As i said i am anti our drug system so i need your knowledge as it could benefit me a lot. I went for CBT for the agoraphobia a few years ago, and although they have an excellent success rate, for me, i have had it too long and too severe. This means COPD is where i need help.

Also Jeg, don’t get so wrapped up in helping others that you forget yourself. The better you get the more people you can help. Have you ever thought of setting up your own website? At least you could earn money for all your work.

Sorry this is so long, especially as you feel under pressure. You do not need to reply to this until you feel ready. Take care of yourself Jeg.

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JEG325 in reply to sheila1kerry

You are not putting pressure on me S1K! I already like you. I sent you some info on COPD. It's iimportant and I believe useful too. There is more where that came from. I will take the rest of my communcations with you to my pm. Maybe we could really talk.....(sigh)

I am in your pm group. Instant response or even daily response isn't needed for me. I can wait until you are ready. If I need a quick answer, I will indicate such in my message.

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JEG325 in reply to NCAQuilter

NCAQuilter, I respond quickly to everyone. The point I was making is kind of the opposite. No one actually stays on my pm and converses with me. You know you talk, I answer, I talk you answer with little or no lag time in between. I'm only talking 30 minutes to an hour on occasion. Tooday, I had an anxiety attack & a panic attack and couldn't find anyone to talk to. Of course, Sunday is a bad day. And if you don't have the time, it's not a problem.But, it's hard to accurately gage things without a few rounds of continuous talk. I really, really like you, NCAQuilter. I will look up the relevant info tomorrow morning when I can spend some time on it, put on our pm and you can comment whenever. Okay? I guess it's a bit sissified to feel you have to have someone to have a full conversation with once in a while. It could be the anxiety and depression talking. I just don't know sometimes. The one thing I know is that I consider you my friend and I don't want to lose you. I'll make sure I'm thorough looking up your info.. Be safe, beautiful spirit named NCAQuilter....

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NCAQuilter in reply to JEG325

Sissified? Never! Needing someone to talk to is not wrong nor weak. Willing to share takes courage and strength. You have both in abundance, never doubt it.

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JEG325 in reply to NCAQuilter

I didn't realize until today, how much I missed just having a continuous conversation. I mean, I say something and someone responds an hour later don't cut it when you're having a full blown panic attack. The situation got reallywhen the ugly 'S' word popped into my head. Fortunately, I'm not very hep on doing myself in. It was just the anxiety and panic talking for me. I know this: I have got to take better care of myself. I can't talk to my good friends like you if I'm not here. I can't help people either. It's just this kind of discussion I needed. Good to get some of it out into the open, even at this late hour. Thank you for that.....

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sheila1kerry in reply to JEG325

Hi Jeg, please feel free to PM me anytime you feel panic rising.

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JEG325 in reply to sheila1kerry

You are one of my true friends, SIK!

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NCAQuilter in reply to JEG325

So sorry I wasn't there when you needed help. My computer isn't always on, and when it is this one doesn't let me know when someone contacts me. We live totally off the grid, on solar power. When the sun hasn't been out enough, like this past week with the fires, we need to really conserve energy. Bottom line, I can't be relied on to be the friend you need for emergencies. But, I love talking with you. Is that enough?

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JEG325 in reply to NCAQuilter

I absolutely love you, NCAQuilter!! Disregard the person that did all that whining. I probably alienated half my friends with that crap. I was so frustrated and lonely for awhile. I think it's cool you're off grid. I would like to do that too. You are so much more than fine that I would beg you to talk to me whenever you can if it wasn't so unmanly. Please, please talk to me whenever you get the chance, though. I always smile as soon as I see your name. A 150 kazillion warm, loving hugs for being such a wonderful person. Peace, love, light and joy. Okay?

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NCAQuilter in reply to JEG325

Superb!

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JEG325 in reply to NCAQuilter

Luv ya!

I also feel it would be nice to make good friends here. I don’t really make friends easily. Friends can also seem like meeting a partner. It’s not always a match. Even life style having an impact such as work patterns.

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JEG325 in reply to AppsFun

AppsFun, you're in. I welcome the chance to get to know you. Contact me whenever you want. Okay? Light, love, peace and happiness, my friend!

hi jeg your a top bloke on here helpful in everyway.i like to talk but its a deliberate ploy of mine to limit my responses apart from PMing that is.i never over rely on healthunlocked because im never going to meet anyone on here in the real world im just doing my bit in whatever way I can.thats how you should approach it on here and try not overthink everyones problemd because your own just grow bigger and you just don't realise it sometimes.i spoke to you in the beginning and it was clear then you would become a top bloke in terms of your support for others.but never leave yourself behind.pm me anytime I have a habit of deleting messages so forget who has contacted me.hey your like my mum jeg never took a pill her whole life I wish I was the same.hate being trapped in a medication world struggling to get out of.you take care.

You know what I'm interested in, Altruism? Your friendship. I can jabber on about any and everything. I'm a good listener too. I'm really good at 2-way, honest exchange conversation. I will accept any good, decent person as my friend. I can talk your ear off too. Especially if you engage in a continuous run of conversation. Just keep talking and I'll just keep answering!

Yeah, familiar with that too. I can go for awhile and then I just run out of steam. I like to think my responses over and it just gets too hard after awhile. I run out of steam in 30 to 45 minutes of continuous conversation, sometimes less if talking to others simultaneously. You and I can play it by ear. When you're tired just let me know. For instance, I'm going downstairs to get me a snack and take my night time stuff. I will be offline for about 25 minutes. Now, I've told you that so, if I don't reply for awhile you will know. Right?

Alt, never has that been driven home more clearly, that in recent days. You are pretty damned wise!

I mean, your first, original message.

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