Another day overwhelmed

[teen_anxiety]

These days I have noticed/realized that I get overwhelmed easy and the 2 main things are a dirty room and homework.

When there is something in my room that is not put away it can sometimes lead to more things not being put away until my room is once again a mess but I often feel like I do not have time to feel it. I know this is probably just my feelings and I have more than enough time but even when I do have time I don't always feel like doing it becuase the idea overwhelms me.

My homework has always taken me a long time to do in part beceause I have so much but also becasue I have not figured out how to just get it done and not have to worry about it. Lately thought it can take me up to a whole day to get things done.

With 2 things that feel like they will take forever I feel like to do one would mean to sacrafice the other not that that matters so much anymore beacuse the motivation is nonexsitant in the first place.

I know I probably complain about this all the time and for that I am sorry but it is something I want to work on and improve so I keep brining it up hoping for new ideas so that I can see what works for me and what does not.

Also as a little note it seems that I have ADHD I have had to counslers mention that to me and I also Have OCD (well I am sure that I do but I have not been diagnosed I mentioned it to them but they were unsure and we have been unable to discuss it any further as of yet) anyways what I was getting at was I have been told these might be affecting my ability to do some things like HW and clean my room in this case.

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Relatable. I’ve got ADHD and right now, math is stressing me out. I know the feeling

[teen_anxiety in reply to Hidden]

ya, me too. I also have a hard time understanding and learning math. The other day in my math class we had a sub and after he finished going thru and doing most of the notes for us I decided to do HW for another class. Later when he walked by he asked if math came easy to me and when I said no he asked if I was avoiding it, I said yes and he was actually able to help me. Without him asking I would have never admitted that and got his help.

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That’s good.

[FriendlyDude]

Perhaps instead of thinking about doing the room as a whole, try committing to intervals of just 10 minutes (or more, or less, whatever you’re able to commit to without being too overwhelmed (a little discomfort is okay). You can also vary the length of interval if you’re getting too overwhelmed or underwhelmed). It might even help to be specific with what you’re focusing on for that interval. For example, “in these 7 min, I’m going to just take care of the clothes” or “I’m feelin up to doin more, so this time I’ll spend 15 min on ___.” You can always add more intervals if you feel you aren’t doing enough, like one in the morning, one after/before lunch, maybe one before dinner, and one at night before bed. Maybe even take a 5 min break from homework once or twice. Even without taking “cleaning breaks” from homework, if you just did 10 min in the morning, afternoon and night for 6 days of the week, that adds up to 3 hours! You can accomplish a lot in that much time!! The best part is that you can do that much work in smaller intervals that aren’t/are less overwhelming

If there’s a certain amount of time you want to spend in a day, like an hour perhaps, you can spread that hour into smaller, easier workloads. An hour a day could be spread out to 4 separate 15 min intervals, or 6 of 10 min. Whenever the time comes to work on your room, just focus on how small 5, 7, 10, or even 15 minutes really is. Time flies 😂

Another idea: at home when you finish an assignment, you could listen to 2 songs, and dedicate that much time to your room before going back to homework. You can change that of course, more or less songs, I just thought I’d provide another specific suggestion

Sometimes when you don’t feel like doing something and you just start doing it, you find yourself not stopping at the time commitment 😂 and you accomplish more than you anticipated. Motivation doesn’t always come though, sometimes you just gotta let your actions guide you instead of the desire, because some things are just mundane and the motivation may never come. Dividing overwhelming or mundane tasks into smaller, more manageable levels of work is a great strategy

I hope this may be of worth to you

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I was training to be an engineer at College most of the classes were Mathematics. The only subject not math related was Marine Radio and Radarwith Morse and phonetics. We also took Engineering Drawing and that was also based on Mathematics, it was heart rending, most people would not recognised the Mathematics, I was at a very high standard. Yes I became an Engineer and most of my work did not really cover mathematics, only when I was costing and drawing work plans, and mans time, and what had to be

done. One site, with plans I had drawn up for the Drawing Department, connected to mans work schedules

BOB