My mum is mentally unstable, how can she get help?

[YYY123]

Hi guys this is my first time using this site I hope someone here can help me with my complicated situation.

I love my mum and all but lately she's been screaming at me and my brother (but mostly me) for every little thing and has just become a very toxic person in general, but I can definitely see what made her this way. To put it simply, one second she loves us, behaves normally and laughs etc but the other she's screaming at me telling me to get out of the house for something as trivial as a piece of paper on the floor.

My younger brother, aged 12, is severely autistic and she is the pretty much the only one taking care of his needs as my dad lives abroad and we don't have any family here in England. She sometimes hits me during her outbreaks, but I'm a big guy so I just let her and don't think much of it but lately it's been getting extremely obnoxious.

Honestly I would report her to the authorities so she could get medical attention but that would mean my brother would be taken by social services and I don't trust them to meet his needs.

I think what may have contributed to her current mental state is the absurd number of drugs she's been getting prescribed for many different reasons but I'm no doctor so do not know the details of everything she takes. What I know is she's on some strong painkillers, beta blockers, antidepressants & many other drugs which I have no clue what they do.

So does anyone have any advice as to what I should do?

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi YYY123 and welcome to this caring forum. This does sound a difficult situation. Thank you for reaching out for help on this caring forum where you will receive support from other members. You do not say how old you are, but you need to be aged 16 or over to join this forum. It sounds as though your mum is finding it very difficult to cope with the situation without having additional family support. Perhaps with some support, the situation may improve, so I would suggest she sees her GP to explain how she is feeling. If she is feeling unwell mentally / physically it will be much more difficult for her to cope with everything. I am concerned that she sometimes hits you, which, of course, is not acceptable. If your mum is reluctant to see her GP, perhaps you could explain your concerns to him/her/ They will be able to help and support you and your family. Also, is there a trusted friend you could confide in about this? It is too much for you to be dealing with alone. Please reach out as you have done on the forum and talk to your GP. You could also speak to the staff at your brother's school, perhaps speak to his teacher, or the school nurse?

I have found some information of organisations that may be able to help your family----

National Autistic Society

autism.org.uk/about

Please see the section on community care which includes services to support autistic children and adults at home and in the community.

There are branches in the UK which provide emotional support to parents of autistic children

Helpline 0808 800 4104 Monday to Thursday 10am---4pm

Fridays 9am--3pm

Contact a Family

A charity that supports families with disabled children.

contact.org.uk

They also provide local support.

Free Helpline 0808 808 3555

It may be worth contacting these charities to discuss how they can support your family, but please first try to persuade your mum to see her GP and if she is reluctant to do this, please talk to the GP and explain the situation. They will help and support you. Do stay on this caring forum. Are any members able to help YYY123, please?

Thank you and best wishes.

[YYY123 in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Hi thanks for replying,

I can't speak to the staff of my brother's school for some reasons.

1. It's a very special school which pretty much doesn't allow anyone in anywhere (even parents) other than the reception outside of 'tour days'.

2. If they found out my mum is abusive, they would take away my brother and send him to social services.

Also none of my friends would be able to help or even comprehend my situation, they're all teenagers. And also about me telling to her to visit someone, I already did but she would just lash out at me whenever I tried to suggest that she needs help.

-- I'm 17 by the way.