what the hell is wrong with me

[ohhithere]

i used to be so happy and close with my family. all i held close to me was the things that mattered in life- family, friends and education.

now, i shout, i swear, i steal, i lose my temper and i get into fights.

i have depression and my grandad died. does it have something to do with this? please help.

[Jamesadams277211]

It will be to do with ur granddad ur at the angry stage of grief, don’t let ur anger out this way, ur granddad will be so proud of u if you go back to being the person u where before he pasted away. Life is cruel and it’s difficult when 1 of our family aren’t here anymore. All that energy u use to fight use that to fight back at the depression ur granddad would be saying that to you, it’s up to u know to carry on for your granddad to keep his memory alive because there’s a part of ur granddad inside u. Think of all the happy times u had together those happy times are called memories and it’s those memories that will help you through a very difficult time, no one else has those happy memories but it’s time people did know about them. When u are ready to talk about the happiness tell the whole world what a wonderful person ur granddad really was stand tall like ur granddad did for u and be proud of the great person he was and from here on in let his memory fill ur body with strength and ambition, ur granddad will be by ur side everyday watching and helping u, make him proud and fight back the depression, u will be the strong one

[Lindsey14]

You're not alone, i get how you feel. Also the loss of your grandad could also add on

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Hello ohhitthere

Did your period of disruption start and continue before the death of your Grandfather, or did the problems start after your Loss ?

Regards your Loss of your Grandfather, yes a loss like this can cause problems you describe although if you were as described disruptive before that will need to be addressed.

When I lost my Surrogate Family, then my Grandparents both opened up a strong feeling of loss and how I had treated them when they were alive. When both Grandparents died I was supposed to move into their home with my then new Partner. That did not help and that opened up a great deal of resentment and anger, I needed to purchase and that opened a life of grief.

Most young family members can have strong sad feelings when they loose people who were so much involved with their Grand Children as they grew up. Whatever the reasons that are causing this they need to be addressed and the person needs to be able to come to terms with their loss and their attitudes towards the departed.

You could try and talk out your problem with a direct family member, or family members who knew the person. To talk out your feelings and address past good and memories will help in closure of your negative periods. This done well may help you consider your negative acts of damage etc. Whatever you do if you have no-one to talk to your GP may be able to help. The attitude of an angry young man needs correcting as well. Remember the older we get the more responsible we need to be in our lives

Where you able to say goodbye at the funeral etc

BOB

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi there,

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