Struggling :(

[Starlight_ftm]

38w pregnant, not on meds, just really struggling today! Diagnosed with ptsd anxiety depression. Got psychology report and although accurate and well written, it’s just made me feel really anxious etc. Feel really alone.

[MAS_Nurse]

Hello Starlight, I'm sorry that you are struggling at the moment. Is there anyone in your MH team that you can talk to about how you are feeling? You are doing so well. I'm not sure whether I've posted this link to your before, but this is from Mind UK on perinatal mental health information:

mind.org.uk/information-sup...

MIND UK charity: Helpline Tel: [phone] [e-mail] Text: 86463 mind.org.uk/information-sup...

You are not alone, we are here for you.

Okay folks can anyone come alongside and offer some timely advice and support to this member?

Keep in touch, and take care,

MAS Nurse

[Starlight_ftm in reply to MAS_Nurse]

Thank you, I am connected to Perinatal services but unfortunately I’ve been unable to click with my nurse because she’s been quite forgetful and unorganised. I have a good psychologist I see each Wednesday who is great but no one felt could reach out to anyone today.

I will read your link now. Thanks a lot for commenting and yes definitely if anyone around to comment that be great

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Hello starlight i would say go to your doctors or see your midwife asap im pregnant with my 1st and suffer from depression and im currently on 100mg of amitryptiline antidepressant had it upped a couple of weeks ago coz I was feeling really low im under the care of the perinatal midwives too now and your not alone sending u hugs if u want to talk im here 😀 xx

[Starlight_ftm in reply to Hidden]

Aw thank you I did text my specialist midwife saying felt really anxious, she replied “any particular reason why or general?” I replied but not heard back anymore. I just feel not much anyone can really do because I don’t want to go on medication so close to due date now. I think my ptsd and fear around things maybe heightened as close to labour, maybe?

How have you found your Perinatal team and did they do careplan with you? I have mine now! X

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Oh I am surprised i thought they would be more helpful than that. That's fair enough and I take my hat off to u going through pregnancy without meds i wish I was as strong as you 😀. Keep it going hun your not alone. Yes im not surprised im scared to death n ive still got 14 weeks to go so yes I would say that it doesn't help.

I have only met one midwife so far from the team im under the care of the early intervention team so I already have a cpn and psychiatrist but when I saw her for the first time i cried for the whole hour and she straight away got on the phone to my cpn and told her i need to see the psychiatrist straight away which I had an app in 3 weeks but i got an app the next week and had my dose upped. I've been quite unlucky so far in my pregnancy been suicidial a couple of times and was basically told go on the antidepressant or social services will get involved. So i have to be on it i didnt want to be but by God has it helped me.

The midwife said she will do a care plan with me at 32 weeks where they all get together and say what will happen if I get sick during the birth or afterwards. How did yours go?

I have been told by my manager tho that everyone even people without depression go through the blues after a few days so good luck with that u may need meds after they are born but with some you can breastfeed and things not sure what it going to do but I hope everything goes ok xx

[Starlight_ftm in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much for sharing what you have. Sorry to hear you’ve felt suicidal, have those thoughts passed now? Sounds quite intense with them all saying what you needed to do but glad they have helped.

Think I was just unlucky with the nurse was assigned but she got abit better since we chatted because she kept forgetting apt’s etc and I’d psych self up and she not come!

How many weeks are you at the moment ? 26?

I wouldn’t say it’s about strength with meds, you sound very strong and reaching out for help that you needed.

I assigned a psychologist from first response team in 2016 but took ages due to waiting list and they lost me in the system lol! But now have one and she’s very good. Just a shame because a lot of treatment cannot be done because how long they took to help me so now as late pregnancy they wouldn’t risk undue stress on me with trauma etc.

I have my careplan - it goes on bright orange sheet to stand out to staff hehe and they can add things and change along the way so hopefully you’ll find that helpful x

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Yer since they upped the dose again its been very helpful im not anymore thank God. I went through the whole gender disappointment too which was long ive started to come round to the idea of having a girl now tho.

Oh wow no wonder u have the amount of anxiety you do that isn't very nice bless ya.

Yer i am 26 weeks tomorrow

Yer thats fair enough its very good that u have someone there to support you that you can trust which is very good keep reaching out to her and she could maybe talk to your midwives too to help u in anyway she can.

Oh right ok lol im scared what they will write on it very dubious i must say haha xx

[Starlight_ftm in reply to Hidden]

No the care plan is all your choice and can have as much or little as you choose. It will just identify any risks or warning signs

Do you mind me asking why you were disappointed you were having a girl? I’m having a girl but no idea about names so hopefully when she here, one will shine out to me

X

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Oh isit i was told the midwife will speak to my cpn n psychiatrist and they will do one had no idea thanks for the heads up 😀

Yes I have no idea really i really wanted a boy as my first child because then it will be the older bro that looks after the sis if thats what i had the second time round. I've been told its prob because I went through a shit childhood and I was having everyone tell me it will be a boy they say if u hardly ever throw up its a boy and its a girl if you puke up loads well thats a load of bollocks lol coz I only puked up once throughout my whole pregnancy so far lol. I duno I jus really wanted a boy and was thinking of names and what they will wear and then i said to the sonographer i wanted to find out at my second scan and she said it was a girl i cried for 2 days afterwards its really weird cant really explain it but it's like losing a part of you but you haven't they put it down to depression.

Aww bless ya ive got a couple of names in my head we are stil trying to figure out names also ive been told tho that you can pick a name and once they are here the name doesnt go with the face so it changes anyways lol.

The midwife said as well its quite common even in people without mental health difficulties Xx

[Starlight_ftm in reply to Hidden]

Aw sorry to hear about your disappointment. Hope the usual phrase of being grateful for a healthy child, will help you! Remember lots of girls kick ass too hehe!

Yeah heard people have a name then say no way it doesn’t look like that, I’m just hoping when she arrives I can think of one.

Maybe ask about care plan just incase it’s different - don’t want you to be hopeful for one thing and disappointed if it’s another way. For me it was just said how it is up to me how much or little is said in the care plan. Didn’t go into detail but just said stuff about explaining procedures and particularly males to not just approach me suddenly

X

[Hidden in reply to Starlight_ftm]

It's alrite im starting to come round to the idea i think it was just the shock of it at first lol thanks for that 😁

Yer im sure u will but don't worry to much my aunt had her son n didnt name him for 6 weeks lol

Ok that's cool then will have to ask when i next see her again and see what it's all about thank u xx

[Marylyn]

I am currently a practising midwife & continually see many women suffering due to lack of education in nutrition & recognising symptons of vitamin deficiencies.When pregnant vitamin b12 levels are depleted causing severe morning sickness,anxiety,depression,fatigue,mouthulcers,weakness.high Bp, Premature labour .,Anaemia,Haemoglobin levels are checked but not regular vitamin b12 or iron here in Australia.So if you have any of the above symptoms ask for active b12 ,folate,ferritin,iron,vitamin D levels.Serum vitb12 <450 requires supplements now otherwise nerve damage will occur.

[Hidden]

Aw, high there! Well, you are most certainly NOT alone! And Congratulations! I hope that you have or will soon make a plan for your baby (and what is best for you as well!) If you really need help, can you google "pregnant and alone" for me? Yes, of course it will help you, but I am asking that you do me a favor and do this! I need to know that here in the US, in Florida, where I am up in the middle of the night at 2:20 a.m., that I am not experiencing insomnia for no reason! LOL (And that my words are doing some good!)

Great news: there is literally A TON of resources for you at this point in your life!

And also, you will never find judgment here, not in Diviny! (No matter what you decide to do.)

You have a listening ear! And a shoulder to cry on, figuratively!

; )