Struggling

[lifted]

I really struggling this last 5 days , crying, anxious , my doctor has upped my venlfaxine yesterday to help with my mood .

I try to clear my kitchen and make it today , it's took me 4 hours , I only cleaned the tops, I have clutter everywhere and just stare at it , but don't do anything.

I feel my brain has shut down and I can function

Plus I'm on the menopause ,and I'm trying not to go on Her, with already being on venlfaxine and lithium.

Please tell me I'm not alone, I used to be so organized and I really get upset , it breaks my heart.

[Hidden]

Don't put too much stress on yourself and relax with guided meditation youtube just google. Don't do too much- just take it easy until you feel you are in control

[lifted in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for reply, I will try u tube x

[Heartfancy]

You are not alone. Try to find something good about yourself and don’t be too critical of yourself. I’ve found that at least for me I journal quite a lot for the simple reason that I find that by doing this I’m able to look back on many writing and see how far I’ve come. I don’t know if this would help. But know I care about you as does a lot of other people.

[lifted in reply to Heartfancy]

I do keep a journal, but cry every time I read it . I just pray my mood will lift and thanks for reply x

[Hidden in reply to lifted]

Have you tried MINDFULNESS Relaxation Technique, books on Amazon for about £7;00. That may help. Do you have any hobbies or Diversions you enjoy they will help you distract yourself and and lift your mood.

Slow, Deep Breathing Exercises can also help as well,

Has your GP offered Talking Therapy.

BOB

[lifted in reply to Hidden]

Thankyou I will give mindfulness a go

[greenmann]

Hello lifted,

I am in the same situation. Having done a major house extension recently (took 11 months), there are loads of work to be done in the house in terms of painting, repairing, unpacking and tiding up. Every week I set myself simple and achievable targets but I end up doing absolutely nothing. Everywhere I turn I see mess. I stare at the mess but cannot do anything. I do everything else other than the targeted items. I end up hating myself as I see tasks mounting up.

I spent all of this weekend watching rubbish TV programmes I don’t even enjoy and ended up hating myself and now unable to sleep.

You are definitely not alone. I don’t know what to do. I can pay someone to help with painting but because of bad experiences I had with the extension work, I don’t trust trade people anymore and I rather do the work myself if I can. But then I never do the work or have the energy to do them.

What can we do? I tried so many techniques...

I know my problem. I am the worst kind of perfectionist which makes me procrastinate all the time as a result. I am the harshest critic to myself and everyone else. I have social anxiety and I don’t like asking people to come over to help and all the small talk I have to do if people are in my house.

I wish I can suggest something to you. I just hope that you feel somewhat relieved that you are not alone. If you find any solutions that worked for you please share.

Greenman

[thesemoods]

I've been where you are and I'm on the same medication. Please don't suffer unnecessarily - menopausal issues on top of everything else can be helped immensely with HRT. It has made my life bearable again and I wouldn't be without it now (I use patches). The loss of hormones during menopause causes so many problems but HRT has given me my life back, not 100% but a big improvement. Sometimes it works quicly but sometimes gradually, anything is better than a bottomless pit. Speak to your doctor xx