An unusual Healer.

[Dear_life]

I am a Medico, for the past 8 months I have been struggling to have friends. In college you are supposed to have friends, lots of friends and yet, I feel alone and lonely. I feel as if my presence is just yet another addition to this world and has no meaning.My best time is with patients, it feels as if I am interacting with a Friend, and patients are such friends which hold on to you, because they need you, and that feeling is just awesome. But other than that, I find myself in dark corners or first benches. And people don't like sitting with me.

During each lecture, I am disturbed by the fact that, everyone else has someone to hold on to, someone to talk to. I have tried making friends, and everytime I find a new friend, I simply get used, of get bitched around. Many times I just lie on my bed, and think about the different ways to die, it would be so easy, if I were to discontinue the purpose of life and be at peace. That's it I suppose, that's all I wanted to share.

[Igiveup29]

I've gone through school, college and uni with no real friends. When the time is right it will happen, learn to enjoy your own company and get a hobby. Get a hobby might help you meet like minded people. Don't give up, try enjoy your uni experience and appreciate the little things.

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Dear Life

It is strange people who know how to treat a patient can have problems looking after their own health.

True friendships are very rare, Most people are acquaintances we just pass in the dark.

When at College we need to become involved in new interests, possibly at your College, there you will hopefully be activities and meet like minded people. You will hopefully make friends.

Diversions help us to enter a world where we are content and when studying it gets you out of the intensity of study, and allows you to take a mental break. Give that a try.

If you have mental health concerns talk to your GP, they may refer you for CBT. Personally I would prefer not to take medication as they will take away your mental edge for study.

You can try Mindfulness that will help you relax.

We are also here too help if needed

BOB

[Alicia463]

I understand where your coming from. School is stressful and not having friends around is difficult and lonely. However, they may think your unapproachable (this is usually my case) or they may think you have nothing to offer them (in which case you don't want them in your life anyway). Real friends are found through experiences and common ground and they're not users. Do you do anything for a hobby? Or does school take up most of your time?

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Dear_life, Please be reassured that you are not alone and you are most welcome to post on this forum to talk to others who understand how you are feeling. It is great to hear that you interact well with patients. They will really appreciate this and it is a wonderful quality. As borderriever said, if you have mental health concerns do talk to your GP who can provide treatment and support. Please also have a look at the pinned posts to the right of the screen where you will find details of crisis support helplines. Are there any interest groups at uni that you could join? Sharing mutual interests is often a good way of forming friendships. Perhaps there is a counselling service that could also help? As Igiveup29 posted, it will happen when the time is right. Best wishes.