This is sort of based on an idea from the anxiety forum - the same one as Themys' Post Christmas Positivity but a little more subdued and sort of a response to a post yesterday that I didn't think was very pleasant.
Whatever you are feeling it's okay - they are just feelings. They aren't you. Let them wash over you.
Pin them to this post if you don't want them and let them flow into the tide of oblivion.
Leave them here if they are good feelings and watch them bloom.
Just don't let it consume you so you take it out on other people or yourself.
It is okay to enjoy doing something but still not feel at the end of it that life has a meaning or is something that you could put your hand on your heart and say - yes! give me more.
It's okay to enjoy being with family and friends
It's okay to find being with family and friends really stressful and want to be on your own
It's okay to fake enjoying the festive season - actually I think it's a lot more than okay - shows that you really care about people around you!
It's okay not to fake enjoying the festive season - we are human and sometimes we just have to be true to what we are feeling (or not feeling).
It's okay to feel alone and isolated because those around us don't understand or have gone away.
It's okay to feel frustrated and angry
Hope you all find a precious moment of stillness and manage to hold on to and remember it.
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Just showed this to my wife because we had the usual conversation about how she doesnt really understand when I say I want to be alone. She said this is selfish. She said we should consider partners more and their feelings on how to live with people with depression. What do you think.
You can't look after anyone else if you can't look after yourself. You can't love anyone else if you don't love yourself. Love your neighbour as you love yourself is as much about needing to love yourself as it is about loving your neighbour.
On one level I don't think your wife really read it as there is a bit in there about doing things for other people even when you don't feel like it
Tell your wife that trying to understand isn't what you want or need because if she understood then that would mean she had been in that deep dark black place and you wouldn't wish that on anyone. Tell her that you are really relieved that she doesn't understand. Tell her that you love her and you really appreciate all the support she gives you and the fact that she is there and that is so much better than trying to understand how you feel ... and tell her that you are sorry if she felt that you were trying to tell her that she needed to just let you wallow in your own misery. That wasn't your intention, and then just leave it all here and let it wash away into oblivion.
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Fact or Fiction? Losing my own mind game.
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