I need a new way to deal with trauma and stressful life events. My way is to just get on with it, ride it out by throwing myself at the problem running on adrenaline until it's over, then try and get back to a normal life as quickly as possible afterwards. This isn't working, and the 'trauma' seems to stay in my head, slowly building up until it's too late and I find myself unwell. For example:
2002 - moved out of parents home to a new city, new life - exciting but scary. 2003/2004 became severely depressed and required counselling
2006 - mum became ill and she needed multiple operations. Later 2006/2007 extreme exhaustion, depression
2008 - relationship breakdown. 2008/2009, became disassociated with mild substance and alcohol abuse
2015 - bought a house and had work stresses. 2015 to now, extreme exhaustion, depression (needing anti-depressants)
These are not unusual things most people have to deal with in their lives, so why can't I? I need a way to deal with these things as and when they happen, rather than bottling them up and 'just getting on with it' only for it to reach boiling point in my head. I'm now seeing a therapist for the second time in my life, which is helping, but I don't want to have to see a therapist every time life is a little bit difficult.
Any advice gratefully received.
Thanks in advance