I'm new here and need some advice

Hey guys I'm new here and have never spoken to anyone else who live with depression, so i'm a little bit apprehensive.

I'm 23 and have suffered with depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I go through phases of feeling okay, then happy and then it takes one small thing to get me feeling like this again. I feel like I have no one to speak to about it, if I try to talk to anyone they just highlight good points in my life and tell me to look on the bright side. So after trying to talk to people and getting those responses I now try and deal with all my problems inwardly.

I have been on Trazadone in the past but I felt like it made me worse and has put me off trying anything else. It's getting to the point where I just don't want to get out of bed and I have university and work to go to and responsibilities but I feel like I've come to the end of my tether, because i'm doing so much something has to give but also I need to go to work to be able to provide for myself and university is important to me because I feel like I'll be happier in the future.

Any help would be fantastic!

Thanks guys

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  • Welcome becwan878 we all have depression here. It is horrible. I am sure you will find comfort is the knowledge you are not alone. It will not take it away sadly. Reading others experience is helpful as they provide insight to ours and we can deploy coping stradegies too.

  • Hello thank you for your response, I have been reading other people's stories and its making me become more aware about what we are all facing and i'm trying to think of ways that i can over come this. I'm going to continue using this site, i've never thought of coming on one before so don't know what to expect!

  • You have made the start today and so I applaud you for that. Expect the unexpected I would advise .. There is always something new to learn and as Thomas_C says you have come to the right place

  • Thank you, I really just want to make positive changes that will help me lead a more fulfilling and happy lifestyle.

  • Yes we all do and good on you for joining us .. Aboard the down train for the journey to the heights .. Destination the fluffy clouds with the rainbows and unicorns for pleasant times

  • Greetings, and welcome. This group is dedicated for people who live with depression, so you've come to the right place. :)

    My first thought would be, have you ever tried any counselling or talking therapies? I know you said you'd approached people to talk about it before, but surmised you were referring to friends and family.

    I think it's admirable that you can maintain a broader outlook of your future despite feeling quite low yourself. My depression began to hit its zenith whilst trying to juggle work and postgrad study. Tried to keep spinning those plates, but I dropped 'em all!

  • Hey thank you for your welcome!. I haven't tried any counselling or talking therapies, when I went to my GP he put me on tablets basically straight away and after I used them for a while I really hated the way they made me feel. I think I need to go back as this was a couple of years ago. I do try and stay as positive as I can, when I can, its just at the moment things are getting on top of me.

    I am currently studying my post grad degree and trying to work part time as well. So i totally understand that feeling, and maybe that's why it's come to ahead again at the moment! Its hard to balance work and university and weighing up the pros and cons of having money in order to do things with friends (which is a really good thing for well-being) or not working in order to feel like you don't have enough on.


  • Aye, unfortunately the pills seem to be the first response! As coughalot says it does sound like you'd benefit a lot more from being able to openly talk about how you feel. Good news is talking therapies are available via the NHS - though there can be a bit of a waiting list.

    Hopefully you get some answers from your GP. Let us know how you get on. :)

  • Hi I agree about trying counselling. Talking about how you feel would really help you. As you have found out generally people don't understand depression. Try only to talk about it on here, with a counsellor, or with a fellow sufferer. Otherwise you will get the responses you have which are not helpful in the slightest!

    Or if you do mention it to others do it very low key so they don't get frightenend by it and keep it short and casual. You might be surprised to find how many people do suffer from it and you might find a soul mate to talk to. x

  • I know what you mean. The main people I try and talk to is my mum and my boyfriend. My mum is a mental health nurse and whilst she is amazing I think she finds it hard to look at my situation objectively. I'm going to go to my gp and hopefully get some answers there :)

  • Good for you love. Let us know how you get on please. x

  • I don't have depression, but my boyfriend does and I have been along the whole ride with him. He was just recently in the place you were where the medication he was on wasn't working and he had a really bad experience with his psychiatrist. I know how hard it can be to get back out there and try new medication, but just because one didn't work doesn't mean the next one won't be the one that makes it better. My boyfriend cut back his hours at his job as well as he isn't taking as many classes until he can get everything more in control and that seems to be helping him. He has told me numerous times how scary it seems and what I always try to do with him when he tells me he's scared is stop talking about it for a little while and go do something that I know he enjoys like music or the lake or watching some funny videos and coming back to it later. Try not to beat yourself up and remember it will get better. If you ever need to talk we are all here for you until you feel comfortable seeing someone for help. Stay strong!

  • I really struggled through my studies with depression and tried not to take meds. I wish I put more effort into my studies and got a better grade.

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