I've had a lot of trouble getting help for some mental health problems over the past 18+ months, and I'm wondering if gender bias has anything to do with it.
I get the feeling men in society are still expected to "man up", and their problems are perhaps not treated as seriously as those of women. I don't have any experience as a woman of course so it could be just as bad for them, or worse.
For example, it's taking months and months for me to see any kind of therapist on the NHS, and when I've contacted private therapists and haven't been confident enough to follow through they've become quite rude to me as if I'm wasting their time. I am aware time is money for them though, but the people who contact them have issues. Putting them down gently would be better, but there was no empathy.
My parents aren't helpful either. My mum thinks I need to "make more of an effort", and her partner sometimes becomes aggressive towards me, especially when I'm having a breakdown which is very very rare by the way. He's never hit me but he's pinned me down on my bed before and threatened to punch me, and my mum didn't do anything about it. I know he has his own issues but I wouldn't put up with that sort of thing if I were her. She immediately asked me of all people to apologise.
I didn't want to take antidepressants because I'm under 25 and they've given me bad reactions twice in the past year, but if I don't take them my parents don't have any sympathy for me because they say I don't want to help myself.
I'm sorry if this seems like a stupid question, blaming this situation on gender bias. I'm just thinking if I was female I wouldn't have had to put up with this. I sometimes become annoyed instead of sad with my depression too, and this puts people off wanting to help me. I don't think this would happen if I was female.
For example, I recently got chided for thinking "I should get help for free" from a university worker when all I wanted was care from the NHS to come faster because I have no money apart from that of my parents because I'm too anxious and depressed to have a job.
I just think the treatment I've been given is sickening. It may not be to do with gender bias, but I've exhausted all options and I'm just trying to find out why the blame is put on me for not helping myself when I can barely get out of bed yet have spent a year at university and almost passed. There's always more I have to do and no meaningful support.
I'm wondering if it's not that men don't seek help, it's that they don't think they'll get it.
It's just something I thought of. I could be wrong, but it just seems odd.