Hello. I hope it is OK for a woman to be a part of your forum. I need some male advice or the perspective of a man and I do not have any in my life I can speak to. I hope you can allow me to ask this one time.
My long term partner says he is sexually attracted to me but does not want to have sex with me. He said he just prefers masturbation and feels the whole having sex with your partner thing is not necessary. He says he has an embarrassing history with erectile dysfunction in the past with other women and this has lead to him now feeling embarrassed and scarred and for this reason he does not want to have sex. He says he loves me and wants to get married.
I don't believe him. I think if a man is in love with you or "into you" he is going to try and have sex with you anyway, irregardless of what the outcome would be. I think at least he would try. I think men who are sexually attracted to women want to have sex with them.
We have been together for 4 years. We had a lot of sex for the first 6 months of our relationship and now we have none.
Could you give me your opinion? I truly think we are just good friends, who stay together because it is comfortable and easy and there is no one else we like better around at the moment. I am worried that he will meet someone in the future who gets his hormones going and run off for sex with them. I do not think it is normal for a guy who says he loves you to then say he does not want to be intimate with you.? He has been saying no for 3 years now.