I'm 47 years old and lost my wife slightly younger wife 18 months ago to cancer. In the last 6 or 7 years during her illness sex was very infrequent, and I both our libido's dropped, due to lifestyle and illness pressures. I'm now engaging in sexual relations but finding it difficult to maintain erections during intimacy with partners.
Masturbation which was used as a surrogate for many years for sexual relief, is mostly fine still, though sometimes I do find it difficult to maintain an erection to completion.
I've resorted to taking meds (Viagra), by way of insuring myself to be able to maintain erections during intercourse, but even that isn't working 100% of the time.
I've not had 'morning wood' for many years, I actually cant't remember the last time.
I've had hypertension for quite a few years and been on daily meds for this which was Candesartan, which has been increased over the years as my BP was regularly 150/100, now on 32mg.
Last year I was additionally diagnosed with Left Ventricular Hypertrophy, and put on an additional tablet Amlodipine 5mg, and my BP is now around 135. I've taken up fitness seriously in the last few months and lost about 10kg and 4" of my waist. I wasn't obese, but am now much leaner and fitter but the ED issues aren't improving with the lower\more controlled BP and improved general fitness.
Starting to wonder if maybe stress\anxiety or depression may be a contributing factor, or low testosterone.
Trying to build a newer better life for me and my daughter, but this feels like a huge hurdle for me to deal with and issue in any new relationship.
Sorry for ramble