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I had no sexual experiences before being married in 1968 and did not recognize that I had the condition phimosis but I soon found that it was painful when having sex with my wife but not being aware of such conditions I tried to persevere and after some while I refrained from any sexual activities which greatly caused some major difficulties between my wife. and myself. Some Thirty Years have passed and (much to her credit and forbearance) my wife has remained my constant companion, so I would advise anyone with this condition not to hold back and seek the appropriate help, as you may not have such a loving and tolerant wife as I was fortunate to meet.

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You could have gone for a circumcision. Even now you can go for. If you have erection you can do intercourse. If you do not have erection you can take aphrodisiac and do intercourse. I wonder why you and your wife refrained from sex . Even you could have fingering or oral sex . By the by, did you have any child ?

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Yes, we had two children one of each 4 years apart and yes we tried alternatives but my wife would have preferred regular sexual activity. Erections or lack of were a big factor and my wife did try to be as understanding as any wife could be.

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Hi Man, that was well said it's not something to be left it can put a strain on relationships you are very fortunate to have such a loving partner and even if you are not in a relationship it can be very stressful so it's good advice to have things checked out and get it sorted

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My wife has been very understanding but it was only Yesterday 12:05:19 that I found out that this was a Medical problem - and now I feel so angry that 30 painful years have gone by with no help from Doctors I consulted with but not in depth but with lack of sexual desire...

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I'm sorry you're only found out now that must have been hard for you and your wife but you can still have it sorted that would have been painful and it would have caused lack of sexual desire with painful erections you should go to a urologist and see what he says.

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Now you do circumcission

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Stfu, there are other ways also. Circumcision is if no other way can help

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You have some choices regarding treatment of phimosis:

reddit.com/r/Phimosishelp/c...

More people believe today that circumcision, which has a lot of drawbacks, should be the treatment of last resort, to be used only after all more conservative treatment fails.

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I think it is very brave of Seekoit to come on here and post his experiences. There are other options apart from circumcision, but sometimes it is the best option for some people. The first step is to recognize its an issue ( complete phimosis for some people does not interfere with sexual health or function ) and the second is to seek proper medical advice about options.

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I fully agree with you. Unfortunately, all too often, men do not get good advice from physicians.

If you follow the link, you will see four options, including circumcision, discussed.

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There has been online help to cure phimosis with non-invasion therapy for more than 20 years. There is no need for suffering. Skin expansion technique is common in many areas of medicine and is highly effective when applied to tight foreskin openings.

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I was 57 years old when i developed this condition , suddenly sex was no fun with the only woman i have known. after many creams and exercise, based on my doctor advise i got circumcised last July , ( Thanks to the many guys on this site that help me )and back to the wife in a month .. best decision i made.

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In my younger days when I could not easily pull back, I found wearing a condom helped. This covered the whole shaft enabling me to slide in nicely, no discomfort.

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Hi From being on here it only confirms that most doctors are pretty crap when it comes to sexual problems, its like cough cough try this cream, and from there another cream and so on, see we have a so called PD on here and all he says is go seek medical advice, need I say more, lost in a world of being superior.

Start with stretching and see how the goes could take a few months, but far better than the chop, just goggle foreskin stretching your find help that way.

NOWHARD

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Try this simple exercise ...

tightforeskin.org/how.html

It will take patience and persistent efforts on your part, but when enough new skin cells grow to permit normal, natural foreskin retraction, you'll be left with the most sensitive nerves on your body, whereas circumcision will eventually cripple normal sensitivity. ... see:

cirp.org/library/anatomy/ta...

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