Circumcision recovery 7 weeks - scar concerns

[Chellephell]

Hi everyone. Long time follower, first time poster. Just seeking some insight / support from this awesome community

I’ll keep the back story as short as possible. Last year around July I started experiencing small painful tears during sex (there was no phimosis as I could always fully retract my foreskin). Doctor gave me steroid creams etc to help loosen it up and tried some different things (condoms, lube) but nothing worked. Prior to this I had a normally functioning foreskin and sex life since I started actively having sex at 18 (am 27 now).

My urologist recommended circumcision, so I went in for the procedure in September last year. Recovery sucked. Post op consult confirmed BXO from biopsy, so I’m glad I did the surgery. I remember the psychological battle of it was the hardest part. They advertised I could have sex again at 4 weeks, but even at 6 weeks (which is what is generally recommended here) I was still too sore to have sex with condoms and lube. It wasn’t until around late December; 3 months post op that I was having what I’d consider normal sex.

Anyways, unfortunately some of those small tears came back underneath the scar line on the shaft skin on the right hand side and I was worried the BXO had returned or not all of the affected area had been removed. My urologist gave me another cream, but again after not working and sex being once again painful, my urologist just suggested to cut out the affected area.

Here I am 7 weeks post revision. Biopsy said BXO hadn’t come back, it was just bad hypertrophic scarring so again, right choice to cut it out. This surgery has more right side shaft skin cut out so it’s a bit uneven and tighter on the right side, but it doesn’t bother me in the slightest as long as I don’t experience and pain / loss of function. Initially, I was in a much better head space with this recovery because I knew what to expect. The stitches came out at week 3, I wasn’t in any pain, all seemed good, at week 4 my partner and I decided to try having sex. All seemed okay, tender, but okay. I took it very slow. We got a bit frisky that week and when we were messing around in the shower, she pulled a bit hard and I felt some pain in the tighter area (right side where more skin was removed). We stopped, I checked and there was no bruising, just tender pain so I slept it off. I’m now on week 7, and am still experiencing pain in that area 3 weeks on. Initially it was really uncomfortable. The clothes I wore irritated it, to the touch it felt sore / burning. Idling I could feel it, i was really down about it but did my best to just let it be and heal without any intervention. I’m hoping I haven’t caused any permanent damage (is that even possible?) Currently I can still feel it and I’m 100% not ready for sex or any sort of activity with my partner. I feel that erections are tighter and sometimes uncomfortable in comparison to what I was experiencing in week 3/4. The scar line on the right whilst improved, still causes me some irritation and slight pain to the touch and feels tight during an erection.

Just curious to see if anyone out there has experienced something similar? I’m not sure if my symptoms are a direct cause of my partner and I engaging in sexual play or if it’s just a coincidence as the healing has progressed. My urologist seems to think all is okay and the sensitivity / pain should subside but I’m just struggling through this battle as it just seems never ending. At this stage from my first circumcision I was experiencing no pain / discomfort in general idle or day to day activities. Currently, I am experiencing this from my second surgery.

Insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks crew.

[digiart]

~ I am surprised that they adverted that you could have sex in 4 weeks. I would have thought it would have been much longer. I think you need to wait much longer to heal. For example in discussions of post-surg-swelling here, we often talk about it being months before the swelling decreases.

I have bxo and for the most part, its been under control. I had a circ also but the bxo is on the glans. I plan on talking to the doc next month if I can just permanently get rid of it via surg rather than go the on and off Clobetasol route.