Spontaneous incontigranial Hemorrhage

[Sunderland335]

Im new here, my husband tradically died 6 weeks ago 4 hours after seeing his unborn child. He was on top of the world that day, a vein burst in his head. Spontaneous incontigranial hemorrhage. They was nothing they could do. Im a widow at 38 with three kids and unborn child. Such a cruel world we live in. Can anyone share and similar situations to help me cope with whats happened. We was due to fly out on the monday to celebrate our 17th year of marriage.

[Stilltrying_]

I am so sorry to hear about your sudden tragic loss. I have found the following link for you as I think you will need support far beyond the scope of what we can offer on here but I am hoping this link can help you.

suddendeath.org/guides-for-...

Gemma

[Sunderland335 in reply to Stilltrying_]

Thank you x

[HadassahMD]

So sorry for your loss and I wish you all the strength, help and hope to get through this difficult time. I never lost a husband, but I loss 14 relatives close to me and just wanted you to know how sorry I am for you and hope you get better soon. verywellmind.com/coping-wit...

[Ellen6 Major Contributor]

I’m so sorry to hear this Sunderland335. It’s tragic and so cruel. Are you getting any support? Traumatic grief can be a cause of PTSD. I cannot even begin to imagine how hard this must be for you. I wish I could reach out and help you.

A friend of mine lost her husband in a tragic accident around 10 years ago. She joined a group for young widows which I believe helped her.

I’m not sure what country you are in but I hope you are able to get the right support. Must be really hard for your children too.

🌸🌱🌺 💐

[Sunderland335 in reply to Ellen6]

Im in uk, help im getting a councillor i just feel im been punished and hes been snatched away from me. Any support groups would be helpful. Thank you

[Ellen6 Major Contributor in reply to Sunderland335]

You are welcome. I’m UK too. Are you north or south? I’m south west.

I found this which may help you - it is national:

widowedandyoung.org.uk/

🌸🌺💐x 🌸🌺

[Ellen6 Major Contributor in reply to Ellen6]

ps: I think the feeling of ‘ being punished’ is probably a normal reaction. I’m sure it will pass. Sounds like you are blaming yourself at moment. I think all of these emotions are probably normal. I don’t know what else to say. I have never lost a partner but I really , really feel for you x

[Sunderland335 in reply to Ellen6]

Im a northerner from leeds x thank you.

[Nathalie99 Partner]

Hi Sunderland335,

There are no words to describe the feeling of sudden loss and shock.

I am truly so very sorry about your husband's passing especially when you are going to have a baby.

It is really very complicated grief and to me it is traumatic.

I lost an ex partner suddenly and still struggling with traumatic circumstances of his death as well as fear.

It wasn't the first traumatic death that I had to deal with and it all adds up.

Reaching out for help and having people around has been really crucial for me and I was lucky to have been supported.

I know there are some helplines in the UK and resources like bereavement counseling (and possibly trauma therapy if needed).

I found these resources but not sure if any of this will be helpful:

moodjuice.scot.nhs.uk/berea...

nhs.uk/conditions/stress-an...

rcpsych.ac.uk/mental-health...

We are here for you...

Surrounding you with light, support and compassion 🌷

[Shy_Guy]

Welcome t the forum. I am so sorry for your lose. It really has to be a shock. I hope you will hang around her and get some support.

[Beingindependent Volunteer]

Welcome to the group. This is a place where you can share your real self and glad you shared what you need.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

There are a lot of resources for you and glad people know what direction to turn you.

I hope that you ask people that you know for everything you need.

In the US people have started gofundme accounts for people. I’m not sure if they do that where you live.

I hope you ask everyone you know for what you need.

Sometimes people don’t know what to do and would like to be asked.

I’m sorry you loss the love of your life. I’m sorry that he’s not with you right now. I don’t understand life I don’t think anyone does.

I hope that you ask people to help you so that you can give yourself the time you need to grieve.

There is no time frame. I hope you have a teddy bear you can sleep with. I know it isn’t the same but holding a teddy bear lowers your heart rate. That works for me anyways.

Stay hydrated as crying drains you.

Find widowed support groups if you think that would help you.

I’m so sorry and hope that you seek out everything you need.

There is a group called buy nothing on Facebook where people share items for free. That may be a place where you can ask for what you need.

Wishing you the best. Sending you a hug.

[Sunderland335]

Thanks ive got a go fund me page its generated some things.

[weegmack]

I’ve just read your post and I just want to say how sorry I am. Such a dreadful, heartbreaking thing to happen to you and I wish I could take it all away. Sending you lots of love and please keep talking to us ❤️❤️❤️

[Sunderland335 in reply to weegmack]

Thanks x