Thinking about friendship ....

[ladymoth]

I have been away for a few days due to personal problems, and have done quite a lot of thinking.

Like everyone here, I get my share of severe pain, and sometimes I feel that life isn't worth living. I read many posts on this site where members say the same thing - that they can't go on. Mostly we live to fight another day, and mostly we start to feel that maybe things are not so very bad.

I think what gets us through is friendship and love.

Hopefully we will have the love of our families, but there is also the love of good friends - and we are lucky indeed if we have that.

Sometimes friendship is difficult and we have differences of opinion. Harsh words are spoken and cannot be taken back, People we thought were our friends turn out not to be so loyal, and turn their backs, or act hurtfully. So - what do we do?

All I can say is that we have to keep trying. People can only make you feel bad about yourself if you allow them to, so if someone proves to be a false friend - don't worry, just turn your back.

It's like this when we have a disease which doesn't show. It's hard to feel that we are taken seriously, and we lose friends who can't see how much pain we have. They think we should pull ourselves together, or that it's all in the head.

Well, I'm all for forgiveness and making up, but there have to be times when you say 'No more!

You have to be your own best friend; do what you know to be right, feel what you want to feel, and tell everyone else to mind their own business.

It's unusual for me to be serious - I'm more often a bit of an idiot, but tonight, serious is what you get!

Tomorrow, I believe we shall be treated to an extravaganza of fun and good humour to brighten our day - and I'm looking forward to that, so goodnight to all my friends - tomorrow is another day!

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Hi moffs hope you are feeling better and had a good time with your family....see you tomorrow

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Sorry to hear you've had personal problems. Glad you're back, and ready for another day of fun. Today has been grey, cold and rainy. And for me that's enough reality. Lets get back to virtuality, which seems so much nicer!

[ladymoth]

Indeed it does seem happier in the virtual world, Kaz!

Yes, I'm much better thanks, VG - had a great time with the family - looking forward to chats tomorrow.

Love Moffy x

[fairycazzie]

Hi Moffs

Hugs xxxxxx

Yes it is and we sometimes feel friends walking away are we slightly paranoid too.

Its how they very discreetly vanish.

Some very quick and those that are seemingly loyal but an odd phonecall as a visit to house is excuses they never get the chance they did before.

Your entitled like the rest of us to be a little quiter or more serious.

I am only serious where seriousness need be.

Some times it can take each individual longer to deal with things.

After all this site is for help & support and we support you just like you do us moffy.

We all have different sides just like the pain picks on different parts and can take us by suprise.

Non of us can be expected to laugh every day.

You relax try put your feet up have a nice cuppa and we are here xxxxxx

Snuggles

Xxcaroline

[hamble99b]

I agree with you and the others.

I find it often hard to ask for help or say how it is and find this site a blessing.

when people say how they are, I can nod, sympathise & understand

when people say what's helped them, I learn

when we have daft themes running - I escape into them and have time out from being me.

thankyou friends and those I've yet to meet.

sandra.

[nanatre]

I have to say my friends are better than my family. I chose my friends. And I love each and every one of them. So sorry you are so down on yours. If they are true friends things will get sorted xxx Gentle hugs xx