first of all let me say thats its been one of those weeks where everybody wants my time ,my family that is ,
somtimes i feel like im going mad ,with the 5 kids and a husband all vieing for my attention ,
i can deel with it most of the time ,but somtimes i have times where i just cant cope ,
this time of year is bad for for all the things i have to remember with 4 children in school ,ive noticed ive started to panick a bit ,and my heart is beeting too fast ,cause of trying to remember everything ,
i write things down ,but still forget lol
ive been trying to get on here cause atleast i can talk to you guys and know everyone understands me .
everytime i try ,theres someone talking to me ,asking questions .telling me somthing ,
as i sit here writing my daughter has just had a teenage tantrum ,so now im crying
anyone want to give me hugs lol
somtimes i feel they dont care as long as everything they want is done ,when i feel like poo .......
I JUST WANT 5 MINS PLSE !!!!!!!!
anyway i love my family even if they do make me mad and wouldnt want it any other way really ,life would be a bit boring otherwise lol
thank you for listening to me ,gentle hugs everyone nte nite xxxxxxxxxx
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gentle hugs to you xx i know how you feel i have 4 teenagers 2 wigh adhd (1 has bipolar as well) i do get time to myself but when they go into one i just dont have the energy hubby works away all week but comes back at weekend and wants my attention which i dont mind but usually exghaussted after a week of work and the kids
lock yourself in the bathroom and leave a sign outside saying sod off and leave me alone for 5 because you have all upset me. Men and kids dont get that we have feelings as well. Be blunt and maybe they will get it.
In the meantime, the biggest hugggsssss for you
Big hugs Lynz . I know how you feel . Sometimes no matter how much you love them all you just want a bit of peace !
With my son being autistic he doesn't read facial signs or tone of voice ( though he's learned a bit and is better than he was ) . So I used to have a sign I would hang on the door that laid it out in no uncertain terms that I was having 5 minutes and wasn't to be disturbed unless it was an emergency . His teacher used the same technique in reverse , a sign for him if he needed to ask a question or didn't understand , because he wouldn't put his hand up in class, so I nicked the idea lol.
I've also learned the " not listening " skill , taught myself to zone out for 5 minutes
I've used that one a few times the last couple of days since Rich hurt his back
Hope you have a restful night.
xx
big hugs lynz & to all u other great mums, not being a mum i may not understand. but being a daughter who is sometimes demanding and have not always giving my mum five mintues. so big respect to all you mums. x x
AWFUL isn't it, but I'm sorry to say it's time your family started to understand--even teenagers are capable of understanding,print out all the info you can about the condition and give them, older ones should help younger ones to understand---don't shoulder the burden alone, i'm sure your family love you but they won't understand so reassure them of your love but there's things you can't do---it's hard so try and explain to them that it comes and goes,kids really can understand a lot----hope it goes well for you ---be at peace with yourself none of us are perfect
Aw Lyns its not nice when everyone wants a piece of you and you havn't got anything left to give. I get a lot of fibro fog and when it feels as though people are coming at you from all angles it does give you a sense of panic. When you feel like this the best thing to do is try and take a few minutes out and concentrate on your breathing until you calm down a little.Good idea to write things down though, if I dont do that I forget everything, I got a little worried at one stage that I was developing dementia but when things calm down it does get a little easier.
Hope you feel more relaxed now, sounds like you need a few hours to yourself to chill out. Take care xx
Lynz I hope you manage to get some peace today - sending you big gentle hugs xxx
being a mum of 5 ages 27 25 23 19 13, i nkow only to well how hard it is, I was having one of my foggy days on saturday my eldest couldnt understand a thing I was saying, my youngest is going through the terrible teenage stage, so there a lot of slamming doors sulking and crying, my eldest daughter , is working all the hours god sends and is frazzled,and Im stuck in the middle of it, I cant play referee anymore theres times now I just need to be alonne to cope with the pain,or just to reconcil to being ill
yes i know what you meen ,i feel like i referee all the time ,it used to be just my girl but now its all 4 of the elder ones they all agrivate each other ,drives me potty lol
thank you ,i have been to docs for this and he said " your not stressed ,or depressed enough my dear "
so promptly went home and cryed the wrest of the day lol and the thing with this fibro if somthing upsets you , thats you done for ages before you can pick yourself up again
I know exactly how you feel, my kids never give me a minutes peace, my daughter is 19 and left home a year ago to live with her boyfriend.
They had baby bella, who's 1 in 2 weeks, the relationship didn't work out so my daughter and bella moved back into my house about a month ago, I had a whole year of peace and quiet, it was so nice.
She never leaves me alone now, constant attitude, always asking me to mind the baby, never cleans up her mess, she drives me potty! don't get me wrong shes a great mother but a very messy person, she leaves the house a mess all the time, then I have to clean it up which then makes me more tired and then end up in bed ill again. I've tried to tell her shes being unfair but she doesn't care.
Then I have my son (he's 17) who's the most selfish boy I've ever known in my life and wakes me up all the time, he doesnt care if I've not slept all night because of pain, neither of them believe I'm ill and tell me often I'm lazy because I sleep alot, trying to make them understand is impossible.
I just don't know what to do, its all take take take and stress on a daily basis, they don't get on so always arguing, more stress. I wouldn't speak to a dog the way they speak to me, kids have no respect these days.
Its certainly not easy and totally understand what you mean about trying to get 5 minutes peace alone, sometimes its just impossible.
I think hygiene and cleaniness has skipped her generation.
My daughter moved out as well and it was heaven for my hubby
and me. I didnt have as much to do as it would stay tidy and we
were able to go out and enjoy ourselves.... and the peace & quiet
was unbelieveable.
But!!! then she moved back home and was pregnant. My grandaughter
is nearly 2 and my daughter just leaves her with me, and doesnt tidy
anything up anyway unless I really lose my temper and start shouting.
I totally agree with you about the lack of respect that kids have nowadays.
I really cant wait till we find somewhere for her to live bcoz I told her months
ago she had to move out as I couldn't cope with her.
the council are moving my hubby and myself to a ground floor adapted
flat or bungalow, but they said my daughter has to be re-housed separately
as they can see the strain she puts us both under which I agree with them.
I hope that you all have manage to get 5 mins peace & quiet n that your
pain is not as bad. Angel x
we only have ourselves to blame stop doing things for them ive waited on mine hand and foot done everything bare wipe their backsides, now Ive made it clear it no go I just cant do things I used to, my youngest son has gone to work all week with no lunch, sorry he knows where the food is
lol lally, I've tried telling them but they never listen, I like my house to be tidy and clean but since she's come back I can't keep up with the housework and its not even my mess, I'm fed up of arguing over the same thing.
When she wasn't living here I had my own way of pacing myself and I managed to keep my house spotless but since she moved back in I can't do that pacing anymore and have been in bed much more from being so worn out cleaning up after her.
she sulks if I'm not well enough to cook a meal, she seems to think because she pays me board money for staying here that I should do all the cleaning and cooking, she used to say my house was like a show house lol not anymore since shes moved back.
I've tried not cleaning up after her but my house looks a mess and I feel embaressed if anyone comes to visit, she doesn't care and just leaves it for days and I dont know how to make her clean up after herself, obviously asking her to leave with a baby is not an option as she has nowhere else to go and I couldn't do that to her or the baby.
If anyone has any idea's, I'd love you forever but I know its asking for miracles lol
Irene x
Irene give you daughter the local paper with accomadation in it, when she sees what it would cost her to move out, then sit her down and tell her it as it is, your ill you need help, she s streeeing you out, my kids really didnt take in I was ill until I started having seizures, seeing mum reshed to hospital barely concious made them stand up and listen, try writing a list of chores for all of you to do, if you can do a few on a good day fine, if you cant they can take on your load to
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scared im loosing my walking
My birthday and im sat crying.
The sickest girl in the know that is not going to die from it anytime soon.
