Hi everyone. Gosh I feel like I'm picking up on so many different things to worry about since my Frozen embryo transfer on Thursday.
I have low AMH, was lucky enough to get 2 embryos to freeze back in January and have just had the B grade returned.
However my anxieties have started to rise because of the timeline the clinic used.
I started oestradiol on Day 2 of the short FET cycle. I went for two scans on Day 9 and Day 14.
My written protocol (which I received back in April - my cycle faced many delays) indicated that if the lining was thick enough on Day 14 you would start Progesterone the next day and take for 6 days before ET. This would make the start of Progesterone Day 15 and the ET Day 20. My lining was 7.5 on Day 14 which they were happy with.
I later got a call from embryology with further instructions. They said they have changed their dates to mirror another clinic that they are in partnership with and whose rates are better. So they said they now scan at Day 15 (I had therefore apparently gone a day early) and that they would start me on Progesterone on Day 16 or 17 with my ET on Day 21 or 22. They then confirmed later it would be Day 17 and Day 22 for me.
I did question this as it was at odds with my protocol but was reassured that these dates were fine and a nurse I later spoke to said the embryologist would have looked at my scans and results before deciding on these dates.
Anyway sorry for the uber-long post- I just got myself in a stress thinking these dates were not optimal.
Would appreciate any reassuring words you might have on this as I need to try and relax and get less anxious x
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Hey there. Just a quick message to say try and stay calm, I'm sure your clinic would have double checked everything. Trust them as they know what they are doing.
The 2ww is torture but try and distract yourself by watching a funny film maybe? And staying away from dreaded Google! I even turned my phone off for a few hours at a time to help me do this, which worked!
Hello. Thank you ever so much for your reply. I've been really worried so it's nice to have a bit of reassurance. The rational part of me knows I need to trust my clinic as they are the experts, I just find myself questioning everything and it's exhausting! It's so helpful to be able to seek comfort and input from those that understand the stresses so thank you very much. I will be following your advice and watching a good movie tonight or maybe starting a new box set! Xx
It's sooooo hard to let go, especially when so much is at stake and if, like me, you are a bit of a control freak.... But the docs know what they're doing. You're in good hands. Enjoy that film! Xx
Thank you. I do find it difficult to relinquish control and that makes things ten times harder. Like you say, a lot is at stake so the stress can be difficult to manage. I watched some 24 with Keifer Sutherland! X
Thank you and I hope you're right. The pessimism has quickly kicked in and I am convinced this has failed - the symptom spotting is the culprit, I have absolutely none, and I mean zilch. Just feel completely normal.
Thank you for your input and kindness. I reckon I should give Schitt's Creek a go, it sounds pretty funny from what I've heard. X
Definitely give it a go! And don't worry about no symptoms - so many women have no symptoms whatsoever. Some even don't realise they're pregnant just before they give birth!!Step away from Google and symptom spotting! 💕 Xx
It can be really worrying when dates/plans/protocols change at short notice. I think we just have to trust that they are the experts and wouldn’t put our cycle at risk. I know I really worried when my last FET got extended because the transfer date fell over a bank holiday and I got really worried/cross that they wouldn’t do it on the ‘correct’ day. I am now 15 weeks pregnant, so it clearly didn’t make any difference! Like others have said try to stay calm and distracted, the 2ww is so hard, just do whatever you can to stay relaxed and my advice is don’t test early as that can lead to further anxieties. Best of luck xx
Yes definitely! When dates suddenly change and you don't understand why, you end up questioning it all and feeling like it will compromise your treatment. Thank you for sharing your experience with me, it really helps that you put it in context with your own delay due to bank holiday and then subsequent success. The 2ww is awful. I am trying to stay relaxed but it's hard, this is my third transfer and yet again I have no symptoms not even from the drugs I'm on which makes me worried they're not working! Thanks again xx
No problem at all. It was my third transfer as well, and similarly I found the 2ww the hardest yet, it seems to get progressively harder for me with each transfer. Try not to worry too much about symptoms, everyone is so different and even with the same person each pregnancy can feel different. I didn’t have any symptoms apart from strong period like cramps and back ache, but that was it and I was convinced it hadn’t worked. Just do whatever you need to do to get through each day. Watch boxsets, read a good book, have naps, bake a cake - just anything to make those days pass by. Thinking of you and fingers crossed 3rd time lucky for you too xx
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