Hello! This is going to be my introduction post but we also can share together our fertility journey stories! I believe that it is really helpful to share with each other what we’ve been through, just to support other women and even to get the support from them.
My name is Felicia, but you can refer to me as Fel. I am 55 years old. You may think that I am too old for it, but I will have to disagree with you. I have been in my menopause for a decade already. Accept for my age I suppose that I haven’t had any fertility problems, but to be quite honest I haven’t had a chance to check if I was healthy or not. I got married only 5 years ago, for the first time. Before being in the relationship was like a game, I was playing, joking around, I didn’t want to have kids from anyone of them. I was looking for someone, who would make me feel complete and from whom I would want to have million babies. And I have found Brad, but it was too late. My story is that I don’t quite feel guilty of not creating the family with my previous guys, but I feel really upset that it didn’t went quite well as I wanted. Why did I meet him at my 50? Why couldn’t I meet him when I was fertile?
For almost 7 years we were enjoying our happy life together and I tried to not think about kids, but he was really blatant about it, he said that he wants to have kids with me. I hope that you can imagine how hard it was for me to look him in the eyes and tell how happy I would be to give him a baby but I can’t, it is too late. But his response was really surprising to me, he said that we can use the help of fertility specialists.
Now, I knew about the existence of fertility centers and treatment, but I thought that women like me can’t have kids on their own. It is not like those centers will create a baby using my dna or something, I suppose that for us it will be a surrogacy treatment or something. Because I am already too old and I don’t know if it is safe for me to even try to carry the baby….
I have googled it. There are plenty if things like iui, ivf and icsi. I don’t really know the difference between them except for what is written on the wiki page. I am 55, my husband is 56, and we both are old. I just wanted to ask you if there is any hope for us.
PS he says that he will find out about what can be done, but I don’t want to develop the false hope..