Husband refusing to accept his weekend drinking is an issue for fertility. At the beginning of our fertility journey (Feb 2023) his results were drastic. ICSI for male factor infertility.
By August when we had ICSI they had improved but not great. Three eggs were fertilised but non reached day 5 blast. Dr said it was likely due to egg quality due to my age.
The last Dr we spoke to plan our next round said that the ‘sperm looked ‘ok’ on the last round but we don’t have a very up to date sperm diagnosis.
I’m really struggling to get my husband to stop drinking at weekends. He started off quite well but seems to have decided he’s not on board with that any more. Our next cycle is in January.
We agreed that we will both cut out booze ages ago. I’ve been more strict apart from a mini wine here and we have totally cut drink at home for the past 5 months but he will take social occasions as an opportunity to drink freely and get pissed. He does understand the effect of alcohol especially as as we watched a documentary on channel 4 (Anyone watch Celebrity Save Our Sperm?)
Ive tried to talk to him about it and even begged him not to drink before he goes out but he still does it. The last 4/5 weekends bar one he has got drunk.
He keeps making excuses like ‘my sperm fertilised the egg AND the Dr said the sperm was ok’’ or ‘’Ive given up 95% of drinking’’ ...We are by no means out of the woods?!
If he abstins during the week then over does at weekend - surely that is undoing all the good work?
It’s his birthday next weekend and with the obvious impending Christmas celebrations I don’t feel like there is going to be any let up. It makes me so anxious and rubbish I don’t know how to get through to him.
Binge drinking is more than two drinks - it has got to have an effect, right? How can I get through to him? I don't want to be a nag - nor should feel I have to.