Final chapter

[Bigtonyd]

well my partner told me to day that she nolonger wnats too be with me I suppose thats the nail in that box 17 years come to an end some how got to pick my self up and pull back together carry on with life really. sitting at work thinking why am i here. trying too stay positive and keep the bad thoughts out of my mind my kids need me.

[Hidden]

Hi Bigtonyd

So sorry your partner has decided to call an end to your realationship after 17 years & children , i am not going to say it will be easy , but you will get through this

years ago after been married 10 years with two daughters , i ended up divorced , i didnt feel i wanted to carry on , that I would never love again , or even wanted to , I worried for my kids & so on

My Daughters were fine , infact they say even today grown up they had the best of both worlds & as far as me & there dad it was a relief when we lived apart as they knew something was wrong , so it didnt affect them & doesnt have to , you can still be good parents even when you dont all live together , which is very important

As for me I did fall in love again , had a son & been married 20 years ! so I did get over it & did move on & now looking back , it was for the best what happened even though it didnt feel like it at the time

There is every reason for you to carry on , you will always be the father to those children , no one can take that away from you & a good one , you will spend quality time with them & they will always need you & love you , no one can replace you as far as your kids will be concerned

Keep posting hun , we will all be here for you

Thinking of you

Love

whywhy

xxx

[Bigtonyd in reply to Hidden]

thanks whywhy i been home holiday from work for near two weeks and she tells me the day im going back too work why would someone do that i dont understand. im now stuck in a place i really dont want too be right now going out of my mind.

[Hidden in reply to Bigtonyd]

I dont no love , even when we are with someone , we cant always tell whats going on in their minds , try not to think to much you will , never work it out & just make yourself feel worse ...maybe at some stage you could ask her

When things end I do no how it feels , its a pain thats hard to cope with , but you will & it does eventually go

Just get through a day at a time , try not to over think , get through tonight , you kids still need you , keep that at the front of your mind hun

xxxxxx

[Hidden]

Hey you,

No time is the right time. People dont think. Maybe she thought with you being on holiday it would make it harder for you all. Like you say the kids need you. Focus on them at the moment to get through it. You know we are all here. x

[Bigtonyd]

thank you hopefully my brain will let your comments sink in right now i just feel numb after all this time thinking i could save what we had i find out i been fighting a loosing battle, just wish the feelings had a switch and i could turn them off. one day at a time, i can do it.

thanks again at least i finally got m answer at waht was going on.

[John12]

Head up tony hope your ok you just need think it's her lose u no ur a good person don't beat yourself up you only live once just remember that pal

[Bigtonyd]

got told late last night that my grandad has died, all my falmily now south so other than my kids i have no support up here, was looking in to some where to live today. could not sleep but took me a while to get up this morning, Im feeling supprisingly calm at the moment but i think that just because im doing what i always do and lock my troubles up.

[noddy1951]

what area are you in

[Bigtonyd]

Scotland Livingston

[Hidden]

Hi Tony

Have you had a discussion with your ex as to what her reasons are. Maybe if you knew you could at least know where you stand. You may even be able to meet in the middle if you have a disagreement. Don't go without being persistent or she'll break you apart. My ex done the same with me.

[Bigtonyd]

All she says is she nolonger feels for me in that way and dosent know why.