CBT APPOINTMENT

[Littlecook]

Hi friends Today was my CBT appointment that seems to help at the time but once it's over with my thoughts come straight back to me about my mother, brothers who doesn't give a S_ _t about me or my health , it makes me relies that I only have my wife to talk to about anything, but sometimes I can't say what I want to say ,I love her but I can't keep bothering her about my problems.

If I could sit and talk to someone all day I would probably boor them to death lol .

Hope everyone is having a good day .

[Littlecook]

Good afternoon, at the moment it's just talking after a couple more sessions it will move over to CBT .

[Littlecook]

It moves over to the cbt but we are just talking at the moment.

[Tom1994]

I know the feeling. I have CBT weekly and find that during the sessions I offload to the point I feel great when I walk out. I could be fine for the rest of the day but then the next day I’m back to my anxious self. I too have my partner but I feel like it’s always the same problems and I don’t like to burden her with them. I have found that journaling helps. It just allows me to get everything out of my head and onto paper. It doesn’t work for everyone but maybe worth a try.

[Littlecook in reply to Tom1994]

At the moment, we are just talking, and then I should go over to the cbt. I've heard it's very helpful he is also talking about the eye movement treatment what should be very helpful, do you find that it can last longer then a day at some times , I've got lots going on at the moment so very anxious.

[Tom1994]

100% I find that once I have a good day it’s really easy to build on that and have a good next day. It’s all about taking the small wins. Like today I have been and done a food shop. I have been out the house and done something and that’s an achievement. Celebrate and recognise all the little things you achieve as these can be missed and we focus on the negatives.

[Littlecook]

We have been out shopping this morning but I feel rough but to be honest I'm like it every day ,it would be lovely just to feel great for one day ,when my cbt starts properly I just hope it works for me . Have a good day

Kevin

[SayNOtoPanic in reply to Littlecook]

Keep it up. You just got started. They will teach you tools and you will utilize that outside of therapy to work towards dealing with the anxiety. You got this!! In the meantime if you like check out the late Dr Weekes on YouTube hope and help for your nerves was her book. You can listen to it. Talks about acceptance and tools. Also guided meditation videos for anxiety they help with the breathing tools; inhale deep from ur nose hold it three seconds exhale slow from ur nose. Practice it throughout the day to ground yourself. Lifting you in prayer 🙏🏻

[Mamamichl]

it’s important for your relationship to find a boundary about venting your issues with her. It will take time and lots of communication and practice having your counselor be your go to about things and knowing when and where it would be ok to talk to your wife about them as well.

As for it helping in the moment, I had that experience, but DBT works better for me. It’s a type of cat that focuses more on strategies and the counselor takes your experiences and helps you know when to use them. They are more intensive (weekly visits) and add in groups weekly and the counselor is available 24/7 in extreme situations. Just remember what you were taught in by and practice it. Be prepared to tell them how it worked or not. Giving feedback really helps them adjust their strategy for the patient.