CBT APPOINTMENT

[Littlecook]

Hi friends Today was my CBT appointment that seems to help at the time but once it's over with my thoughts come straight back to me about my mother, brothers who doesn't give a S_ _t about me or my health , it makes me relies that I only have my wife to talk to about anything, but sometimes I can't say what I want to say ,I love her but I can't keep bothering her about my problems.

If I could sit and talk to someone all day I would probably boor them to death lol .

Hope everyone is having a good day .

[MorningDanceTrece]

You're supposed to practice the CBT skills all day long every day at home not just when you're sitting in the office with the therapist.

It takes time to change the way that we think.

I'm quite shocked that the practitioner did not explain to you that it's not the fairy godmother's magical wand and that you yourself have to do a lot of leg work and practice the skills continually until they become your new normal.

[Littlecook in reply to MorningDanceTrece]

Good afternoon, at the moment it's just talking after a couple more sessions it will move over to CBT .

[MorningDanceTrece in reply to Littlecook]

Oh. You didn't explain that. You said that you were doing CBT therapy.

It actually has been scientifically proven (in addition to the anecdotal evidence of millions of people's lived experience) that talking to someone and nothing else in a therapeutic setting regularly for a long period of time will cause the same positive biological and physiological changes as medication but unlike medication those changes will be permanent and will not stop once the talk therapy stops the way that the medication changes stop after it is no longer consumed.

The thing is is that it's not instantaneous.

One thing that someone can do that I myself do and many people to positive effect is when we find ourselves ruminating on something that helps us feel unhappy is to tell yourself [for a personal example] "...on Tuesday at 11:00 a.m. or Friday at 5 pm I'm going to be speaking with Jaclyn and I can think about and deal with this then but not now. Now I need to give my mental and emotional and physical energy to something that's actually happening right now and about which I can actually do something."

Learning a new way to think and learning new ways to behave are actually work and hard work at that.

I have been practicing CBT for approximately 30 years.

The process has not ended but rather is continuing.

I grow and learn every day and will continue to grow and learn until I die.

[MorningDanceTrece]

Are you sure you're actually receiving Cognitive Behavioral Therapy?

The whole point of CBT is that you yourself change your thinking.

Every time you find yourself ruminating in an unhelpful and unuseful manner you have to make a deliberate choice to turn your thoughts away towards something positive or at the very least something different.

When you start ruminating on your mother or your brothers for example you need to tell yourself that that is neither helpful nor useful and you also need to tell yourself that that's not what you do anymore.

And you need to make a deliberate decision to think about something else instead of stewing over things over which you have no control.

[Littlecook in reply to MorningDanceTrece]

It moves over to the cbt but we are just talking at the moment.

[MorningDanceTrece in reply to Littlecook]

When you say you were just talking at the moment are you referring to talk therapy or do you mean that the person is getting information about you?

Also there is no law that says you cannot take the ideas to consider that I have offered you and start practicing them now.