I don't know how I should feel but I feel noone cares

[Littlecook]

Ever since I had to retire because of my health I feel noone cares , I don't hear anything from work or my colleagues who I thought was my friend, my brothers don't even ask how things are going, my sons who are special needs don’t understand anything I tell them ,I don’t have friends so all but my wife I'm all alone. I so need to talk to someone who understands me and what I'm going through but I'm asking a lot, I still feel like going for a walk but not turning back I want to just keep walking.

Does anyone else feel the same way .

[GalDriver]

I was once told that I would grieve over my former life. I was medically retired too.

It's easy to feel that people don't care about your woes but they do. But, like when you're grieving a loved one, they don't always remember what you're going through. They are, of course, wrapped up in their own lives. As we all are.

Could you find someone else to talk through your health problems? I have MS and found the MS nurse to be a godsend for discussing the things I couldn't, satisfactorily, with my friends and family. It left me free to be a friend and partner/auntie/daughter to those around me. Well, made it easier anyway. Getting the balance right in anything is a blooming art, isn't it??!

I hope you find the outlet for your feelings that you need. Please forgive those around you who don't, or can't, understand. If you could get the understanding that you need then the pressure would be relieved and your personal relationships could resume with less pressure.

Good luck, Littlecook.

[gajh]

I care! I had to stop work early due to mental health issues. I have no one but my boyfriend and my parents. I am so glad I have connected with people here who understand. You truly are not alone.

[Littlecook in reply to gajh]

Hi gajh Thank you for your kind words 😊

[gajh in reply to Littlecook]

What do you most need to talk about with someone who understands?

[gajh in reply to Littlecook]

Have you been able to talk about it here yet?

[Littlecook in reply to gajh]

I have talked to my friends on here yes but I need to open ip completely, things I can't say here .

[gajh in reply to Littlecook]

Why do you feel like you can't open up and say everything here? It is anonymous. It is safe.

[Littlecook]

Mostly my childhood days ,things I can't get my head around, and everything that's going on in my head and thd visions I see on a regular basis. It's difficult for me even to think straight.

[gajh in reply to Littlecook]

That sounds like it would all be safe to share here.

[mariarosa in reply to Littlecook]

Wow this i can relate to, i have childhood issues, it was very abussive and i mean ugly abussive as in being in the fight and flight feeling 24/7 im 64 y/o, scared all the time cause i didnt know was going to happen to me next. Doctors say stress caused my 3rd degree heartblock due to all the years of struggling to hide the abuse, they said i have the brokenheart syndrome. To top it off my hubby has cardiac insufficiency since he was 41 he's always in the hospital, i feel like the world is on my shoulders. i still have a 16 y/o that needs us. Dont know how to erase from my mind the past though i have good days and then the not so good too. Im into mindfulness, praying and meditating u know like new age stuff it helps a bit. I feel as though life is so scary most of the time and i can't do anything about it. Maybe the best i can do is live life 1 day at a time and live only in the present. Like i said there are good days then there are the not so good. I find reading and listening to music helps a little too i am really trying to keep it together for the familys sake and my own. Lately i have gotten into singing and it brings me to calm places on my mind. I hope u can talk about what is hurting inside, maybe u will feel less heavy. I know how u feel. Bless you.

[mariarosa in reply to mariarosa]

I meant the fright and fight feeling sorry for my english.

[Littlecook]

At the moment I'm feeling very low and think the only way around this is by talking face to face , I've got a very short fush at the moment, I tried talking to my mother the weekend but just as I thought couldn't remember anything with her dementia. I've lived with this for 52 years and it Hunts me on a daily basis even if I see something on the Television it brings back memories.

I have never spoken about my childhood days just lived with it in my thoughts constantly.

[Haribo58]

Some of my retired work colleagues have told me that since retired they have felt loneliness...some more than others...one in particular has become almost completely alone as she has no partner so she tries filling her days in her garden. It's good that you've found this community....you can come here and share your troubles and usually there's others going through similar struggles....the support people give each other here is fantastic. I took early semi retirement a few years ago and even though I'm still working part time found it difficult to adjust. It's so easy to drift into isolation and become lonely especially when you have other issues to deal with. Sometimes it's like starting all over again with new circumstances but you still have alot to offer...your experiences can be helpful to others 🥰

[Littlecook in reply to Haribo58]

Unfortunately I have been told that I will not be able to work again, I go onto our garden that's my happy place ,I so want to make new friends to go with for a coffee and a chat ,my wife is supportive but I still need someone to talk to different, hope this doesn't sound bad . I live in the UK so if anyone up for chatting why not message me .

Take care and stay warm .

[Jobee59]

well we have talked a couple times. I don’t think you’re alone out there. I retired three years ago and I voted for Donald Trump so now I have no family and no friends and I’ve had no friends since I’ve retired anyhow. I’m just getting used to being alone and doing my own thing and I talk to people when I go to stores and things like that but I retired again because I had a stroke and I’m blind in one eye but other than that I’m OK, but no I get it out there don’t wanna be friends they don’t wanna be bothered or something I don’t know what it is but I feel your brother.

[stde]

You need to talk, it is the best therapy by none...join a group, new mental health groups cropping up everywhere. Find someone you can trust and empty your heads dustbin...🙏Don't think about doing it , if you don't want stuck in your own head...Just do it👍